“Full time mom”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Earning the money that puts food on my kid's table, and a roof over my head is just as much part of being a parent as building legos with my kid.

It’s not though. And I’m saying this as a WOHM. I did SAH when my kid was 0-3, and there is a lot more parenting going on. A lot. As WOHMs we outsource an important part of parenting. It serves a purpose as kids get older bc they need socialization and structure but no one is ever going to convince me that going to an office and earning money is just as much a part of parenting. By those standards, why don’t you just send a check to your DH weekly? I choose to work but I’m self aware enough to know that someone else is doing the lion’s share of parenting from 9-6 daily.

I work, and I sort of agree and sort of disagree. I'm a single mom though, so putting food on my kids table has always been my responsibility (despite getting child support - its not enough to cover all the things) and IS part of parenting. It's really important that my kid eat every day and have a roof over his head, and that's my job as a single mom. No one else is doing it for me.

That said, THANK GOD someone else is with my kid all day. I'm not good at the endless days of crying kid BS. I do decently enough at the evenings, but ugh being a SAHM would be horrible for me. I'm glad some people enjoy it, but I'm awful at it.

[Anonymous]

Yep,, there is not any perfect term for this (yet). "SAHM" is not accurate since we hardly "stay at home" most days. I think "full-time mom" is better, but if it's objectionable to other moms, I'd be happy to use some other term.

Suggestions? It would be so nice to have a term that doesn't diminish the real work we SAHMs do OR the real parenting of moms who do other work during the daytime.

[Anonymous]

Momming so hard?

— you girls need a hobby —

[Anonymous]

It is absolutely a dig. I guess the kindergarten teacher becomes the kids mom when the kid goes to school.

[Anonymous]

It just makes no sense. A mother is a mother no matter where the kid is physically. Every mother is a full-time mom. That started when the baby came out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep,, there is not any perfect term for this (yet). "SAHM" is not accurate since we hardly "stay at home" most days. I think "full-time mom" is better, but if it's objectionable to other moms, I'd be happy to use some other term.

Suggestions? It would be so nice to have a term that doesn't diminish the real work we SAHMs do OR the real parenting of moms who do other work during the daytime.

Yes. I haven't ever found one word that conveys all this. I usually say something more wordy that I hope sounds neutral, like, "I don't work outside the home, I run the house and the family instead."

Let's all try on both sides not to look for offense when it's just semantics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely a dig. I guess the kindergarten teacher becomes the kids mom when the kid goes to school.

Yeah I kind of agree with this. For those who use this phrase - do not see how once the kids go to school you’re in the same boat with the rest of the “part-timers?” What do you say then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep,, there is not any perfect term for this (yet). "SAHM" is not accurate since we hardly "stay at home" most days. I think "full-time mom" is better, but if it's objectionable to other moms, I'd be happy to use some other term.

Suggestions? It would be so nice to have a term that doesn't diminish the real work we SAHMs do OR the real parenting of moms who do other work during the daytime.

Yes. I haven't ever found one word that conveys all this. I usually say something more wordy that I hope sounds neutral, like, "I don't work outside the home, I run the house and the family instead."

Let's all try on both sides not to look for offense when it's just semantics.

I see that you’re trying, but that doesn’t make sense. Because plenty of women both run the house and the family and work outside the home. There is no instead - it’s not either/or.

[Anonymous]

Don’t say you “work full time”. Employees don’t work full time because there are hours in a day outside employment.

[Anonymous]

It’s just a phrase. Also some modern working moms have so much flexibility, are part time, wfh, and dip in and out of the workforce that sometimes it’s hard to tell who actually works.

[Anonymous]

OP, please point out instances where this phrase has been used. Because it’s not.

[Anonymous]

I have heard it used by military spouses For times when their husbands are deployed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Momming so hard?

— you girls need a hobby —

It was a joke.

— you girl, need a sense of humor —

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say you “work full time”. Employees don’t work full time because there are hours in a day outside employment.

Np: “full time” is a legitimate labor term to represent, generally, 40 hours per week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say you “work full time”. Employees don’t work full time because there are hours in a day outside employment.

Np: “full time” is a legitimate labor term to represent, generally, 40 hours per week.

I guess I work fuller time. I guess SAHP can say they work full time x 4.