Should I just proceed with caution?

[Anonymous]

Why do you like this guy, op? I'm being serious. Are you sure he is worth liking? I'm wondering if you like him so much because you sensed he was "brooding" "troubled" "moody" think Dylan McKay from Beverly Hills 90210.

If it was me, I'd tell him you don't want to see him anymore and I'd tell him why. If he wants to keep you, he needs to get this girl out of the way so that you and he can court. If he can't or won't, run.

It's 2020 and we now live in a world where two adults can legally marry. There is no need to moon over anybody, just as there is no longer a reason to avoid banks, refuse to seek out medical attention when it is needed or wanted, stay up late to hit the cheapest long-distance rate possible, rush home to catch your favorite tv show, the list is endless.
I "get" a relationship being inappropriate close. I "get" thinking you are in love with someone until you meet someone else, what I don't "get" is dating while engaging in ongoing communication with someone who doesn't want to be with you no matter how much that behavior is rationalized.


Assumming you are emotionally healthy, I'd give him a chance to explain the relationship, give him a chance with a very short runway to tell this girl he is happily coupled (group texting with you is great for this) and if he doesn't treat you like you are his number one priority, let him go.

I'd also advise reading Jane Austen for some blueprints on the type of men you want, and the type of men you want to avoid. People haven't changed in the past 200 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you like this guy, op? I'm being serious. Are you sure he is worth liking? I'm wondering if you like him so much because you sensed he was "brooding" "troubled" "moody" think Dylan McKay from Beverly Hills 90210.

If it was me, I'd tell him you don't want to see him anymore and I'd tell him why. If he wants to keep you, he needs to get this girl out of the way so that you and he can court. If he can't or won't, run.

It's 2020 and we now live in a world where two adults can legally marry. There is no need to moon over anybody, just as there is no longer a reason to avoid banks, refuse to seek out medical attention when it is needed or wanted, stay up late to hit the cheapest long-distance rate possible, rush home to catch your favorite tv show, the list is endless.
I "get" a relationship being inappropriate close. I "get" thinking you are in love with someone until you meet someone else, what I don't "get" is dating while engaging in ongoing communication with someone who doesn't want to be with you no matter how much that behavior is rationalized.


Assumming you are emotionally healthy, I'd give him a chance to explain the relationship, give him a chance with a very short runway to tell this girl he is happily coupled (group texting with you is great for this) and if he doesn't treat you like you are his number one priority, let him go.

I'd also advise reading Jane Austen for some blueprints on the type of men you want, and the type of men you want to avoid. People haven't changed in the past 200 years.

Why do all this? Isn’t pretty evident he still wants his ex?

[Anonymous]

Red flag.

He stated that he currently (!) still wished he could have begun his life w/another person.

That clearly resonates that he has some regrets.