Should I just proceed with caution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something happened that stopped them from living together but they both wish they could have. In my mind he is not over this person yet. So if you really like him and feel like its mutual I wouldnt cut it off but I would definitely be careful.

THis. He is not over her. I would not get exclusive and keep dating other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would proceed with caution for now. Sounds like her family suffered a loss and maybe he just didn't know how to word a sympathetic text. I mean, you saw the text thread. Were there more texts or anything to indicate they've been talking more?

Now that I think about it, yes. He had laughed at something on his phone. I guess he felt like he didn’t want me left out on the joke? He showed me a funny sweater meme that was sent to him. He told me the backstory to the meme saying he sent a pic of his dog since it’s his bday next week and the reply was an ugly sweater meme and it said give him hugs and kisses for me. I saw the name at the top but thought nothing of it. Just assumed it was family or a good friend. It was his ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something happened that stopped them from living together but they both wish they could have. In my mind he is not over this person yet. So if you really like him and feel like its mutual I wouldnt cut it off but I would definitely be careful.

THis. He is not over her. I would not get exclusive and keep dating other people.

Can you please explain the big deal of not being over someone?
If he doesn’t want her back and wants to get over her what’s the issue with OP moving forward?

[Anonymous]

it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you just talk to him about it?
“Hey the other night I saw a message on your phone...”
What you scared?
What kinda relationship do you plan on forging where you’re scared to communicate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

[Anonymous]

You invaded his privacy. You had to go into the text messages to see both his text and the response. Only responses show up on the locked home screen. You have been on a few dates, he owes you nothing. Your invasion of privacy by reading text conversations is just so over the line.

Who does that? He deserves better.

[Anonymous]

If you went beyond the initial screen and did anything to see farther into his messages, you’re at fault.

[Anonymous]

He should proceed with caution.

[Anonymous]

What’s their dating history?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should proceed with caution.

Exactly.
She’s suspicious of him BUT SHE’S THE ONE KEEPING SECRETS.
If he knew how sneaky she was and how she’d sooner query the anonymous “experts” than come to him with her concerns he’d break it off in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s their dating history?

The breakup wasn’t long ago. Like in the last few months long ago. I asked him if he’d ever been married, engaged, long term relationships, etc. He said he used to only date casually (he’s 30 FYI) until he met his ex and he wanted to marry and was looking at rings not long before their breakup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

You do know you sound bitter and jaded, right?

He wanted to marry her. Him wishing they could’ve started their lives together was he 100% how he felt/feels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

You do know you sound bitter and jaded, right?

He wanted to marry her. Him wishing they could’ve started their lives together was he 100% how he felt/feels.

And you know this with such certainty because...
You know him personally?
You have heightened powers of telepathic perception?
How do you know he wasn’t bullshitting?
How do you know his statement wasn’t an over exaggeration?