Should I just proceed with caution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

You do know you sound bitter and jaded, right?

He wanted to marry her. Him wishing they could’ve started their lives together was he 100% how he felt/feels.

Because I’m not bitter and because I don’t know him personally I won’t go into a situation thinking he’s lying.

News flash most people who are in long term relationship and talk about marriage usually love each other. Being that the breakup wasn’t long ago and he’s still texting her he still loves her.

And you know this with such certainty because...
You know him personally?
You have heightened powers of telepathic perception?
How do you know he wasn’t bullshitting?
How do you know his statement wasn’t an over exaggeration?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

You do know you sound bitter and jaded, right?

He wanted to marry her. Him wishing they could’ve started their lives together was he 100% how he felt/feels.

And you know this with such certainty because...
You know him personally?
You have heightened powers of telepathic perception?
How do you know he wasn’t bullshitting?
How do you know his statement wasn’t an over exaggeration?

Because I’m not bitter and because I don’t know him personally I won’t go into a situation thinking he’s lying.

News flash most people who are in long term relationship and talk about marriage usually love each other. Being that the breakup wasn’t long ago and he’s still texting her he still loves her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it's kind of a generalized platitude you would respond with when there has been a tragedy. It would be hurt full to respond with... "Sorry about your family, but you are a psycho b!tch, and I'm glad you aren't close anymore." LOL.

I would just keep going, and have fun with it. If it gets to the point where you will be a "Couple"... then just say something like... "Before we take this to the next level, is there anyone else who you are thinking about, or seeing?"

You couldn’t be more wrong. This guy still wants his ex.

You do know 90% of the stuff men say to women is bullshit, right?
Men say what women want to hear...whether they’re talking to their momma or their wife or their ex.

You do know you sound bitter and jaded, right?

He wanted to marry her. Him wishing they could’ve started their lives together was he 100% how he felt/feels.

And you know this with such certainty because...
You know him personally?
You have heightened powers of telepathic perception?
How do you know he wasn’t bullshitting?
How do you know his statement wasn’t an over exaggeration?

Because I’m not bitter and because I don’t know him personally I won’t go into a situation thinking he’s lying.

News flash most people who are in long term relationship and talk about marriage usually love each other. Being that the breakup wasn’t long ago and he’s still texting her he still loves her.

Hey it’s not my predicament so truth be told I couldn’t care less either way I just was offering my 2 cents.
If it’s important for you to “win” the debate of how OP should interpret things and go for it. I’ll graciously concede - without bitterness by the way.

Best wishes to OP hope things work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You invaded his privacy. You had to go into the text messages to see both his text and the response. Only responses show up on the locked home screen. You have been on a few dates, he owes you nothing. Your invasion of privacy by reading text conversations is just so over the line.

Who does that? He deserves better.

Yes, either this is a troll or you’re not being honest. How could you have seen the text he sent from the locked home screen?

[Anonymous]

OP, I haven’t read all of the answers but this text exchange means there’s potentially something there. At this point, just date casually which means also actively date others. Sometimes people may not admit that they are not completely over their ex and so it might be prudent to be smart at how you handle this.

[Anonymous]

So how did the message he sent pop up on the screen? Wouldn’t the one she sent only pop up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So how did the message he sent pop up on the screen? Wouldn’t the one she sent only pop up?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You invaded his privacy. You had to go into the text messages to see both his text and the response. Only responses show up on the locked home screen. You have been on a few dates, he owes you nothing. Your invasion of privacy by reading text conversations is just so over the line.

Who does that? He deserves better.

Yes, either this is a troll or you’re not being honest. How could you have seen the text he sent from the locked home screen?

OP, you need to answer this or you've lost all credibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You invaded his privacy. You had to go into the text messages to see both his text and the response. Only responses show up on the locked home screen. You have been on a few dates, he owes you nothing. Your invasion of privacy by reading text conversations is just so over the line.

Who does that? He deserves better.

Yes, either this is a troll or you’re not being honest. How could you have seen the text he sent from the locked home screen?

OP, you need to answer this or you've lost all credibility.

At the end of the day I don’t think this really matters.

He’d go back to the ex in an instant. She’s the one that he really wants and she wants him too. You’re just a distraction. Just bow out now.

whether they get back together today, tomorrow, or next year they’ll end up back together.


And if I had to wager, they’ll probably end up getting married...being that he wanted her to be his wife and all...

[Anonymous]

He didn’t just send condolences, he was wistful about their life together. And he’s texting her dog photos. You should not fall for him and see other people.

[Anonymous]

Well...

I invited to him this super bowl get together. He hasn’t really been on his phone so I was relieved for a while but then he gets this text...

I see him say I completely forgot it’s your mother’s birthday. I hope she doesn’t hate me. I’m going to text her right now.

Maybe they’re just good friends now?

[Anonymous]

T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
And Troll was her name-oh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
And Troll was her name-oh.

Don't want any more time replying to this thread. Its is a T R O L L

At first, she said he went to the bathroom to answer a text
Later she said he didn't touch his phone at all during the whole time that he was cooking
Even WORSE, she said, "saw" part of their conversation pop up from the locked home screen. What phone is that? iPhone 20?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
T . R . O . L . L
And Troll was her name-oh.

Don't want any more time replying to this thread. Its is a T R O L L

At first, she said he went to the bathroom to answer a text
Later she said he didn't touch his phone at all during the whole time that he was cooking
Even WORSE, she said, "saw" part of their conversation pop up from the locked home screen. What phone is that? iPhone
20?

But does any of this really matter? The guy clearly wants his ex so how she saw it is pretty irrelevant at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well...

I invited to him this super bowl get together. He hasn’t really been on his phone so I was relieved for a while but then he gets this text...

I see him say I completely forgot it’s your mother’s birthday. I hope she doesn’t hate me. I’m going to text her right now.

Maybe they’re just good friends now?

You’ve lost credibility. No way you could see those messages on his phone. Troll somewhere else.