Stay Home or Go Back To Work?

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should definitely go back and find a way to do p/t. Best of both worlds. I like working part-time a lot.

[Anonymous]

You have a great role that you can do part time or come back after a few years. If you're really drawn to staying home, I'd do it.

[Anonymous]

I’d work OP. I’m a highly paid professional and my time is too valuable. There are tons of loving and professional care givers out there that can provide a valuable input and perspective on your child’s development to enrich it and give you fresh perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked PT while my kids were little and loved it! The best (and worst) of both worlds. Don't be surprised by the worst - SAHMs look down at you for working, working moms look down at you because you only work PT... But it is all worth it!

Yes I completely agree. I’m doing this now with two in preschool.

[Anonymous]

My kids are now in elementary school and honestly that's when you need a flexible schedule. There are so many activities and school events. Are you going to do after school care or be able to get your DS off the bus? Practices frequently start at 5:30. Then you throw in homework. Your evening aren't for you to schedule anymore, like with babies when you come home from work and are home for the rest of the evening.

I say put in the full time hours now to build to the ability to go part time later.

FWIW I did full time when my kids were babies, but am now part time.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never met a mom who stays home for just 2-3 years.

You’ll likely have another kid and then you’ll continue staying home.

You shouldn’t have gone to school at 37 if you didn’t plan on working.

At the very least, work part time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked PT while my kids were little and loved it! The best (and worst) of both worlds. Don't be surprised by the worst - SAHMs look down at you for working, working moms look down at you because you only work PT... But it is all worth it!

Yes I completely agree. I’m doing this now with two in preschool.

I haven’t experienced moms looking down on me. It’s more that I don’t really feel like I am advancing at work. I am there just enough to be a worker bee advancing other people’s careers. And at the same time I lose a lot of the flexibility I would have as a SAHM, and I still have to stress about childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never met a mom who stays home for just 2-3 years.

You’ll likely have another kid and then you’ll continue staying home.

You shouldn’t have gone to school at 37 if you didn’t plan on working.

At the very least, work part time.

What field do you work in? I know several women who stayed at home for 2-3 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked PT while my kids were little and loved it! The best (and worst) of both worlds. Don't be surprised by the worst - SAHMs look down at you for working, working moms look down at you because you only work PT... But it is all worth it!

Yes I completely agree. I’m doing this now with two in preschool.

I haven’t experienced moms looking down on me. It’s more that I don’t really feel like I am advancing at work. I am there just enough to be a worker bee advancing other people’s careers. And at the same time I lose a lot of the flexibility I would have as a SAHM, and I still have to stress about childcare.

I used to work part time with young kids. I thought it was the worst of both worlds. I seemed to never be available when moms were getting together for random last min play dates. When I met professional colleagues, I felt I was going backwards. If you cut down and have flexible jobs while others are full steam ahead, you feel like you are moving backwards. Perhaps some women need the income or want to keep foot in the door but I felt like I was just wasting my time.

[Anonymous]

You've only been an NP for a year. That will be problematic for you if you SAH then go back after some years. Pretty much any other applicant is going to be considered before you. Even a new grad, because they likely also have worked as an RN for some yrs and have all their academic and clinical training fresh in their brain. You will be left with a weak resume and no recent experience.

You will be much better off keeping your foot in the door in some way. Either work as an NP part time or if there is a university near you with a nursing program, consider teaching. Teaching one class or a skills lab will require little time but still keep your resume from looking quite so bleak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've only been an NP for a year. That will be problematic for you if you SAH then go back after some years. Pretty much any other applicant is going to be considered before you. Even a new grad, because they likely also have worked as an RN for some yrs and have all their academic and clinical training fresh in their brain. You will be left with a weak resume and no recent experience.

You will be much better off keeping your foot in the door in some way. Either work as an NP part time or if there is a university near you with a nursing program, consider teaching. Teaching one class or a skills lab will require little time but still keep your resume from looking quite so bleak.

OP did say she was working as a nurse through her NP program. That means she worked as a nurse for 2-3 years and she was an NP 1.5 years before getting pregnant. I think she should do part-time too. I don't think you can teach aa class unless you a doctorate of nursing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You've only been an NP for a year. That will be problematic for you if you SAH then go back after some years. Pretty much any other applicant is going to be considered before you. Even a new grad, because they likely also have worked as an RN for some yrs and have all their academic and clinical training fresh in their brain. You will be left with a weak resume and no recent experience.

You will be much better off keeping your foot in the door in some way. Either work as an NP part time or if there is a university near you with a nursing program, consider teaching. Teaching one class or a skills lab will require little time but still keep your resume from looking quite so bleak.

OP did say she was working as a nurse through her NP program. That means she worked as a nurse for 2-3 years and she was an NP 1.5 years before getting pregnant. I think she should do part-time too. I don't think you can teach aa class unless you a doctorate of nursing.

I don’t think it was 1.5 years before pregnant. She worked 1.5 years working before she had the baby.

OP said she was trying to get pregnant for a while so she must have been trying to get pregnant while in NP school.

Sounds like she met her DH while she was a nurse and went to NP school after she got married and tried to get pregnant in NP school but it took longer than she anticipated.

[Anonymous]

Just stay home. You used to be a nanny. You got a doctor husband now. Most nurses who married doctors don’t work anymore.

DH went to an Ivy League med school and residency. There were all these PA students who married residents or dated med students. Many of them never even worked at all. They just got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just stay home. You used to be a nanny. You got a doctor husband now. Most nurses who married doctors don’t work anymore.

DH went to an Ivy League med school and residency. There were all these PA students who married residents or dated med students. Many of them never even worked at all. They just got married.

That valuable MRS degree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just stay home. You used to be a nanny. You got a doctor husband now. Most nurses who married doctors don’t work anymore.

DH went to an Ivy League med school and residency. There were all these PA students who married residents or dated med students. Many of them never even worked at all. They just got married.

That valuable MRS degree!

Perhaps Op went to Georgetown or Hopkins for nursing.