Is everyone into polyamory or random kinks or are Slate’s advice columns just weird?
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Anonymous
This is narcissistic. The PP gets her self confidence from other women "wanting" her husband. 
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Anonymous
Judge much? Anyway, we go to swingers clubs. It’s really a fun time. |
Anonymous
Just calling a spade a spade. |
Anonymous
How? You have no idea what you are talking about, since we are total strangers. |
Anonymous
Lol. Wait until we tell her about hotwifing. |
Anonymous
Yes, there absolutely is a kinky community. t's not necessary for anyone to be a part of the community but it is nice to be able to meet with, and discuss those things we do that many people would not understand. Kinksters and swingers overlap but are not the same. For example, a typical kinky party is not the same as a swingers club, but some some people will have sex at kinky parties where it is permitted. Swingers may not identify as kinky, and for sure, most people who identify as kinky do not practice swinging. Yes, kinky people give themselves all kinds of labels for themselves and their relationship types. So many it can be hard to keep up with at times. What behaviors are considered kinky? For a lot of people, it can be a couple dynamic that includes a master-slave type relationship, or where one is dominant and the other submissive and all that entails including BDSM. For some, it's all about the impact play which could include being restrained while being: paddled, whipped, caned or other things involving painful pleasure. Being tied up with rope and suspended is a big part of the scene that has become very popular in the last ten years or so. Some people have mad skills with rope, also known as, Shibari. I envy them. And so many other things I won't bother listing as I'm sure you can do your own research if you are interested. A lot of people are fine with playing with others, according to their rules which may include, no sexual contact. This gives people a chance to try out different things like, getting tied up, spanked, caned, waxed, needle play, electro stimulation, and many other things in a somewhat supervised, somewhat safe environment while others may just go for the social scene and confine their play to each other, although in full view of everyone else. I say somewhat safe because these things we practice certainly carry certain risks while some can be downright dangerous if performed by those without much experience. That's one of the reasons that most of these kinky clubs do not allow drinking and they will employ at least a few people to monitor the different scenes and call a halt to anything they feel is getting out of hand or just not allowed at that club. These things all go on in private homes or at kinky parties where they have the facilities the average person probably doesn't have at home. Parties are every week and some of the largest in the area may have a few hundred people with some annual events that are much larger and take up an entire hotel for an entire weekend or a huge campground for a full week. I'll venture to guess that most people who identify as kinky are not involved in the "scene" so much or the whole kinky community. I know a lot of people, like us, who used to go to the parties back in the day but got their fill of it but still very much enjoy what we do. But, to be certain, there is a community with it's own social network websites, very active party scene across the country as well as other social meet & greet gatherings in bars and restaurants where they keep it vanilla. It's all around you. Trust me, many people you interact with are involved in it. |
Anonymous
Lol, ok. Don't need to know you it's pretty obvious what the drivers are for this type of kink...but whatever honey. |
Anonymous
Same here and same with most of our kinky friends. I find it funny that you can't have an online discussion about sex without someone telling us how we are all going to catch one of the horrible STDs that are certainly prevalent among our social groups where we are all indiscriminately swapping fluids back and forth. |
Anonymous
Of course not. Kinky people aren't out to convert anyone. Especially those who may not get it or label some of the things we do as, abuse or worse. But it's all around you. Your friends, Chad and Becky from down the street may be dressed up half naked at a kinky party this weekend having fun and you will never know it. |
Anonymous
My favorite kind of couple to join. Just don't mention: AB/DP, Furries, Littles, Cuckholds, Stags & Vixens, S&M, needles, blood play.... Oh my! |
Anonymous
| What a motley crew of weirdos. Yes Slate has gone off the tracks. It started when they replaced Emily Yoffee as Dear Prudence. She was replaced by Mallory Ortberg who decided she is now a dude named Daniel. Now all the letters are weird, to all the columns. It is hard to distiguish Slate, Jezebel and WAPO now. It is no longer cool to be normal. |
Anonymous
You are so wild and edgy... |
Anonymous
To each his own. Some of us weirdos really enjoy what we do. Most of us make sure we don't expose others, like yourself, to our kinks. I'm sure you enjoy your 2x month missionary position sex on your clean white cotton sheets (with a towel underneath of course), then shower and brush your teeth right after. I'm happy for you and would never call you names. Don't you worry about the weirdos and they won't bother you. |
Anonymous
Maybe, but you really have no idea, do you? And if she did, what's wrong with that if it works for them both? |
Anonymous
What do you think the motivation is behind it? Purely sexual? No psychological reason? |