Women irritate me (vent)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be the guy's girl, too, until I figured out that men don't have real, meaningful friendships with women. It's not personal, outside of the fact that they'd f you if you let them.

Men will hang around like dogs at the table waiting for any scrap you'll toss them. Op and others here confuse feeding hungry dogs for being objects of desire. It feels good to get that attention until you realize they are this way with 99.9% of the women who will stand for it. Bon apetit!

Maybe you aren't interesting as a person because that hsnt been my experience. I have a group of guy friends who I could call to bail me out of jail if I needed it.

See how that feels? I'm purposely giving you a taste of your own b$tchy medicine.

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be the guy's girl, too, until I figured out that men don't have real, meaningful friendships with women. It's not personal, outside of the fact that they'd f you if you let them.

Men will hang around like dogs at the table waiting for any scrap you'll toss them. Op and others here confuse feeding hungry dogs for being objects of desire. It feels good to get that attention until you realize they are this way with 99.9% of the women who will stand for it. Bon apetit!

Maybe you aren't interesting as a person because that hsnt been my experience. I have a group of guy friends who I could call to bail me out of jail if I needed it.

See how that feels? I'm purposely giving you a taste of your own b$tchy medicine.

Why would you need to be bailed out of prison? I only like law abiding women. We could never be friends.

Also, men don't care if the scraps are fed to them from Marie Curie or Ariana Grande. See how that works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are easier and more fun. Women are calculating and talk way too much. I can predict how a conversation will go with most women. Thankfully, my best woman friend since high school is succinct and hilarious. I think more like a guy and I really like sex. I do have more solid male friendships. Close circle of woman that I consider friends and the rest are acquaintances.

I’m not like other women, I lIkE sEx aNd eAt a tOn

[Anonymous]

If you can’t get along with half the world’s population, that’s a personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

I agree that female friendships can be more fraught but they’re worth it. I have maintained extremely close friendships with about 8 women from various stages of my life and feel so blessed to have them. Especially because parenthood can be so lonely.

I also have close male friends but it’s different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that female friendships can be more fraught but they’re worth it. I have maintained extremely close friendships with about 8 women from various stages of my life and feel so blessed to have them. Especially because parenthood can be so lonely.

I also have close male friends but it’s different.

In my experience they can be fraught only because women who love you and care about you will actually call you on your sh*t because they know you and want you to be your best self and know you can do better. You have to have respect and love for them to be able to accept it and grow from it and in turn give it to them when they need it. Women who can’t handle this reduce it to “drama” and appreciate hanging out with men who don’t really have high standards of us and pretty low expectations of women overall and thus don’t care enough to challenge us to be better than our worst natures want us to be sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Cool women don’t want to be friends with all you “men make better friends” ladies.

We can spot you and you do the sisterhood a disservice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that female friendships can be more fraught but they’re worth it. I have maintained extremely close friendships with about 8 women from various stages of my life and feel so blessed to have them. Especially because parenthood can be so lonely.

I also have close male friends but it’s different.

In my experience they can be fraught only because women who love you and care about you will actually call you on your sh*t because they know you and want you to be your best self and know you can do better. You have to have respect and love for them to be able to accept it and grow from it and in turn give it to them when they need it. Women who can’t handle this reduce it to “drama” and appreciate hanging out with men who don’t really have high standards of us and pretty low expectations of women overall and thus don’t care enough to challenge us to be better than our worst natures want us to be sometimes.

If any person is direct with me I respect the heck out of that.

But with female friends and even bosses- sometimes all you get is passive aggressive comments and being gossiped about behind your back. And of course not all women but it's happened so often that I'm really sick of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that female friendships can be more fraught but they’re worth it. I have maintained extremely close friendships with about 8 women from various stages of my life and feel so blessed to have them. Especially because parenthood can be so lonely.

I also have close male friends but it’s different.

In my experience they can be fraught only because women who love you and care about you will actually call you on your sh*t because they know you and want you to be your best self and know you can do better. You have to have respect and love for them to be able to accept it and grow from it and in turn give it to them when they need it. Women who can’t handle this reduce it to “drama” and appreciate hanging out with men who don’t really have high standards of us and pretty low expectations of women overall and thus don’t care enough to challenge us to be better than our worst natures want us to be sometimes.

If any person is direct with me I respect the heck out of that.

But with female friends and even bosses- sometimes all you get is passive aggressive comments and being gossiped about behind your back. And of course not all women but it's happened so often that I'm really sick of it.

But there are clearly women who DON’T respect directness if it’s not flattering, so they choose instead to tag along with the men who don’t care either way. Sure they don’t criticize you or offer tough love and that might look like kindness and affection but that’s only because they truly don’t care enough to bother.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone so defensive? What is it about women who prefer male friends that gets your blood boiling? No, you can't spot us since you have a stereotype of the type of woman who can be friends with guys.

Haha the "sisterhood" really? Many women claim to be all about building women up yet often tear each other down. DCUM is a good example.

[Anonymous]

I’m friends with men and women. I like different kinds of people. And...different races and religions!

Maybe I’m just weird?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone so defensive? What is it about women who prefer male friends that gets your blood boiling? No, you can't spot us since you have a stereotype of the type of woman who can be friends with guys.

Haha the "sisterhood" really? Many women claim to be all about building women up yet often tear each other down. DCUM is a good example.

Why would we not be defensive about one woman writing off ALL other women as being inferior to herself and men? Heaven forbid she actually have daughters one day with this kind of internalized misogyny. Which, by the way, is what we are calling out- bit again, if you’re not secure enough to accept criticism from women who want you to be a woman who does better, you’ll just distill it to us being haters and claim we arent building you up. Nope, I’m sure not building up a woman who believes all women are the problem in this world. We get enough sh*t from men. Don’t need it from this side too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone so defensive? What is it about women who prefer male friends that gets your blood boiling? No, you can't spot us since you have a stereotype of the type of woman who can be friends with guys.

Haha the "sisterhood" really? Many women claim to be all about building women up yet often tear each other down. DCUM is a good example.

+1

[Anonymous]

Penis envy. It's a thing in patriarchal society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never trust a woman who doesn’t like other women. Agree with PP that what OP describes is a lonely way to be.

Absolutely, 100% true. If a woman has no female friends - RUN.