Women irritate me (vent)

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t sound like any of my female friends. I wonder why you have a hard time attracting chill, independent women to befriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't put it as strongly as you have, but I hear you. I have had (and do have) close women friends in my life, but I find it much easier to be friends with men. I was raised in a family of boys (cousins, too), and I find them much easier to be around. When I was in college, I was the one girl that was invited to the boys' poker night. It worked out for me, because I went into an industry that was dominated by men, and it didn't bother me to be the only woman in the room.

FWIW, in my career, I have been known for promoting and mentoring women. I like women; I just find many women exhausting when it comes to personal relationships.

I too find friendships with men easier, or should I say interactions. As a married woman I try not to develop any deep friendships with men because they too easily transition into more than friendships... btdt. But I too chose a male dominated field and often I am the only female in a room of 20. Anyhow, I do have close female friends, but they are hard to find.

OP here. Yes, this is the issue I face. I am a tomboy at heart, and always gravitated more towards males for friendship growing up. Now that I'm an adult and married that dynamic is complicated because of the reason you mentioned. I have a female friend, but find it hard to have several female friends. PP used the word exhausting, and I think that accurately sums up how I feel about a lot of female interactions. I just could run across more ladies who are more light hearted and less demanding.

[Anonymous]

I just *wish I could run across more ladies who are more light hearted and less demanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just *wish I could run across more ladies who are more light hearted and less demanding.

Be the change you wish upon others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't put it as strongly as you have, but I hear you. I have had (and do have) close women friends in my life, but I find it much easier to be friends with men. I was raised in a family of boys (cousins, too), and I find them much easier to be around. When I was in college, I was the one girl that was invited to the boys' poker night. It worked out for me, because I went into an industry that was dominated by men, and it didn't bother me to be the only woman in the room.

FWIW, in my career, I have been known for promoting and mentoring women. I like women; I just find many women exhausting when it comes to personal relationships.

I too find friendships with men easier, or should I say interactions. As a married woman I try not to develop any deep friendships with men because they too easily transition into more than friendships... btdt. But I too chose a male dominated field and often I am the only female in a room of 20. Anyhow, I do have close female friends, but they are hard to find.

OP here. Yes, this is the issue I face. I am a tomboy at heart, and always gravitated more towards males for friendship growing up. Now that I'm an adult and married that dynamic is complicated because of the reason you mentioned. I have a female friend, but find it hard to have several female friends. PP used the word exhausting, and I think that accurately sums up how I feel about a lot of female interactions. I just could run across more ladies who are more light hearted and less demanding.

Prepare to get blasted, OP. I have always gravitated towards Male friends. Female friends have hurt me more than boyfriends ever have- through total mean girl crap. When you try to write this on DCUM you get slammed and they say you can't be trusted and there is something wrong with you. (I was too nice I see that now and was a pawn/doormat for power plays.)

Basically they try to say that women are nice and easy to get along with by being totally mean and hateful. Good times.

I am pretty lonley honestly because I have some close female friends but not a lot. And I cant hang out with the guys because the wives get twitchy. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

Those of you(women) who don't like women, are you married and do you have kids? Any woman with kids would try to form some sort of friendship with other women, even if it is superficial, just for the sake of the kids

[Anonymous]

I used to work in a male dominated field. Men are just easier to get along with. There is less BS and they seem more even keeled and fair. Women act all syrupy and sweet, but they are two faced and often fake or try to hurt your feelings to inflate themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't put it as strongly as you have, but I hear you. I have had (and do have) close women friends in my life, but I find it much easier to be friends with men. I was raised in a family of boys (cousins, too), and I find them much easier to be around. When I was in college, I was the one girl that was invited to the boys' poker night. It worked out for me, because I went into an industry that was dominated by men, and it didn't bother me to be the only woman in the room.

FWIW, in my career, I have been known for promoting and mentoring women. I like women; I just find many women exhausting when it comes to personal relationships.

I too find friendships with men easier, or should I say interactions. As a married woman I try not to develop any deep friendships with men because they too easily transition into more than friendships... btdt. But I too chose a male dominated field and often I am the only female in a room of 20. Anyhow, I do have close female friends, but they are hard to find.

Men are simpler creatures and don’t have as close of friendships. I’d refer to them more as interactions. Men tend to get their emotional needs met through women. If you find relationships with women to be challenging, it may be that women are too intense and deep for you.

[Anonymous]

I love having strong friendships with other women. So I feel like a traitor admitting that when my workplace went from a healthy mix of men and women to mostly women, the entire dynamic changed for the worst.

I think large groups of women get toxic. OP, you just need a few great friends. Not a sorority.

[Anonymous]

An all female workplace can be toxic, but so can an all male.
I always chuckle when I hear women say, “ I just prefer being the only girl at poker night.”
It just reeks of insecurity to me. Being threatened by the presence of other women isn’t chill. There’s nothing chill about that.

[Anonymous]

I used to feel that way, but over the years I’ve found women who were easier to get along with. My team at work is all female, and everyone is very down-to-earth and chill. Similar dynamic at my kids’ school. Just some really awesome people. I need to count my blessings, I suppose. I know not everywhere is like that.

[Anonymous]

This is sad. The men you “love” to hang with don’t care about you at all. You’ve deprived yourself of female friendship which can be one of the most powerful and defining relationships in a woman’s life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An all female workplace can be toxic, but so can an all male.
I always chuckle when I hear women say, “ I just prefer being the only girl at poker night.”
It just reeks of insecurity to me. Being threatened by the presence of other women isn’t chill. There’s nothing chill about that.

Why can't people just have a preference? Why are you being judgemental about it? You are proving my point btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sad. The men you “love” to hang with don’t care about you at all. You’ve deprived yourself of female friendship which can be one of the most powerful and defining relationships in a woman’s life.

Or it can lead to being bullied when a Queen Bee decides to round up all her followers against you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sad. The men you “love” to hang with don’t care about you at all. You’ve deprived yourself of female friendship which can be one of the most powerful and defining relationships in a woman’s life.

Or it can lead to being bullied when a Queen Bee decides to round up all her followers against you.

Sure Jan. Go back to hoping the guys at the poker table notice you.