Do you believe in keeping in touch with exes (more than a card or holiday wishes)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have kids in common, why bother? I ask because I’ve had a few over the years who have reached out and really there is no value-add to my life. I always feel like there’s some underlying motivation or desperation. And personally I’ve found I never responded when I was at my happiest and best- happily married with kids and living well. Thoughts?

I admit that i do snoop on my ex-es. Just to know really what if and just being silly thinking about how life would have been different. Why do i do it? I don’t know. Does it add value? Nope.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't this question depend on the type of relationship? If you went on six dates with someone and consider him/her an ex, sure, why not? But if you dated for at least a year and love was involved, it's playing with fire. Feelings never go 100% away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't this question depend on the type of relationship? If you went on six dates with someone and consider him/her an ex, sure, why not? But if you dated for at least a year and love was involved, it's playing with fire. Feelings never go 100% away.

Not true. Thought it would be, but even 10 years later, I have zero romantic or sexual feelings for an ex I dated for 5 years. We were and would be great friends, but I understand DH wouldn't be that comfortable with it, so we catch up over lunch 1-2x/year. I'm actually shocked at how "over it" I am given how I felt at the breakup. I mean, once you've been there and you are in greener pastures, your romantic feelings die. It's the ones that "got away" that I'd worry about.