Do you believe in keeping in touch with exes (more than a card or holiday wishes)?
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Anonymous
| If you don’t have kids in common, why bother? I ask because I’ve had a few over the years who have reached out and really there is no value-add to my life. I always feel like there’s some underlying motivation or desperation. And personally I’ve found I never responded when I was at my happiest and best- happily married with kids and living well. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
| I think I am a rarity among millennials, but I see zero benefit in staying friends with an ex. I don’t do it. I agree, there’s always some underlying motivation and/or sexual tension. Who needs the complication? |
Anonymous
| I have a few I consider to be casual friends - we keep up on Facebook or run into each other from time to time and have nice conversations when we do. In some cases, because we dated, they might know me better than some of my friends, and I feel like that history is the value-added. I don't get the impression any of them are looking to revisit things. (well, except the one, but he's single and living in Ohio, so I can keep him at arm's length.) |
Anonymous
| There is one ex that I’ve known for 20 years - he is a wonderful friend. No ulterior motives on either side. Sometimes our professional circles overlap too. |
Anonymous
This is pretty much it. I don't know if I'd say we're friends, but there's a shared history/connection of that time and place so they feel familiar. I don't go out of my way to spend time with them, but we are friendly and would have a nice chat if we ran into each other. We also broke up for a reason, so I don't feel any pulls to revisit things in a deeper way except a "what's going on with you?" type of catch up. |
Anonymous
| Generally nothing beyond a Christmas card with 2 ex's. No FB or any other social media. The only exception is a guy I've known since I was ten years old and we dated for a time in college. Our parents were good friends and I see him once or twice a year. He and my husband have become pretty good friends. |
Anonymous
| No I don't. I think about them from time to time and look them up on social media, but other than that, have no reason to stay in touch. |
Anonymous
| No. Not even for cards or holidays. It’s a closed book and there is no need to reopen. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
Same here. |
Anonymous
| No. We are DONE. I don’t want to be friends with exs. Never have, never will. |
Anonymous
| No no no |
Anonymous
| No, they are way in my rear view mirror and I'd like to keep it that way. |
Anonymous
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It depends on the situation. Did the relationship end badly? When did you date? How long did you date? Were you friends beforehand and/or part of same friend circle? These details matter.
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Anonymous
| My husband's ex and her new husband are casual family friends. We see them and their kids maybe 3 times a year. They are perfectly nice, so why not? |