Do you believe in keeping in touch with exes (more than a card or holiday wishes)?

[Anonymous]

No,no, no! I’m not proud of the woman I was before I met my DH as I was stupidly into the bad boys and frat boys. When I met my now husband it was like a light bulb going on in my dumb head about what a real man should be like. He knows a bit of my past and I have no desire to be in touch with any ex’s. It’s been 30 years and I’m so happy I escaped that life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why cause problems in your current relationship? Especially over a ex.

Kids or not move on.

This. I broke up with my GF because she just can't let go of her ex and her need to text him all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No,no, no! I’m not proud of the woman I was before I met my DH as I was stupidly into the bad boys and frat boys. When I met my now husband it was like a light bulb going on in my dumb head about what a real man should be like. He knows a bit of my past and I have no desire to be in touch with any ex’s. It’s been 30 years and I’m so happy I escaped that life.

But if your exes had been decent guys that it just didn’t work out with?

[Anonymous]

If a significant amount of time has passed and both sides have healed and moved on, then I can see a friendship brew.

Especially if the break-up was on okay or even friendly terms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No,no, no! I’m not proud of the woman I was before I met my DH as I was stupidly into the bad boys and frat boys. When I met my now husband it was like a light bulb going on in my dumb head about what a real man should be like. He knows a bit of my past and I have no desire to be in touch with any ex’s. It’s been 30 years and I’m so happy I escaped that life.

But if your exes had been decent guys that it just didn’t work out with?

But they weren’t decent guys!

[Anonymous]

I’m friends with most of my ex-boyfriend on FB. If I liked you enough to F you, then I should like you enough to be friends. No desire to hook up with them. I’m happy to see how their lives have turned out. And very grateful that’s not the life I’m leading.

DH knows I’m FB friends with many ex’s. Not worried at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m friends with most of my ex-boyfriend on FB. If I liked you enough to F you, then I should like you enough to be friends. No desire to hook up with them. I’m happy to see how their lives have turned out. And very grateful that’s not the life I’m leading.

DH knows I’m FB friends with many ex’s. Not worried at all.

No, DH knows if he says anything he'll look bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m friends with most of my ex-boyfriend on FB. If I liked you enough to F you, then I should like you enough to be friends. No desire to hook up with them. I’m happy to see how their lives have turned out. And very grateful that’s not the life I’m leading.

DH knows I’m FB friends with many ex’s. Not worried at all.

No, DH knows if he says anything he'll look bad.

No, he really doesn’t care about most of my ex’s. There is an ex that I used to periodically talk to that he doesn’t like. I can tell the difference.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't see the reason why I would want to. I don't even think about ex's.

[Anonymous]

I am friends with a few my exes that the relationships were healthy. We’re legit friends and I know their wives and they know my partner. Same for him. If someone contacted me randomly High Fidelity style I’d be cautious but open to seeing why they had gotten in touch. These were people that were important to me and most started out as friends.

[Anonymous]

If your marriage is so fragile that contact with someone you dated before is going to make it crumble to dust that is sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we talking ex-wives/husbands or merely girlfriends and boyfriends?

I am in touch with several ex-girlfriends, at least on facebook. it's totally platonic, at least as far as I am concerned.

I have one other ex that I am loosely in touch with. Still some chemistry which becomes very, very tempting given the near death of my marital sex life.

Your last paragraph is why you have to break contact. Don't complicate your life.

Probably why his wife is pulling away. If my spouse was seeing or keeping his exes in our life he'd better not expect a lot of affection from me. PP is engaging in self defeating behavior.

It's a chicken and the egg question. If you are sexually satisfied, you aren't focused on exes. People get complacent in the marital bedroom and wonder why their spouses eye wanders

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m friends with most of my ex-boyfriend on FB. If I liked you enough to F you, then I should like you enough to be friends. No desire to hook up with them. I’m happy to see how their lives have turned out. And very grateful that’s not the life I’m leading.

DH knows I’m FB friends with many ex’s. Not worried at all.

Some women have this "I am so mature because I am friends with an ex" mentality. Men just don't care about the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m friends with most of my ex-boyfriend on FB. If I liked you enough to F you, then I should like you enough to be friends. No desire to hook up with them. I’m happy to see how their lives have turned out. And very grateful that’s not the life I’m leading.

DH knows I’m FB friends with many ex’s. Not worried at all.

No, DH knows if he says anything he'll look bad.

No, he really doesn’t care about most of my ex’s. There is an ex that I used to periodically talk to that he doesn’t like. I can tell the difference.

riiiiiight .....

[Anonymous]

I recently heard from an ex who I haven’t heard from in over 10 years. Sounds like she is enjoying her freedom being recently divorced. I think it’s good to catch up, but wouldn’t go back and hook up.