Do you feel the number of children you have was a joint decision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I want number two much more than husband does, and I told him we won't have number two until he wants it too (which may never happen). I don't want to have a kid that my husband doesn't really want.


This was me. Husband decided he wanted a second too. Now nearing 37 weeks, having turned 40 during this pregnancy. Had he taken any longer to decide, I'm not sure we would have pulled it off.


How long did he take to decide?

This is us too. No decision has been made yet, and we've been in this place (me wanting a second, but only if DH wants a second too) for about a year and a half. DD is now 3.5. I still don't know where we'll end up. We decided to give ourselves til the end of this year to decide. We came to a point a few months ago where we made this deal: DH is going to spend the summer soul searching and thinking about what he really wants; I'm going to spend some time figuring out how I'd feel about being one and done; and we're not going to talk about it for a few months to give ourselves the space to think it through. In the meantime, I keep taking my birth control

I posted earlier. I think it’s been about 3 years for us (trying to decide). Your plan of a deadline to decide is a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Yes we both decided two was enough. He got snipped, so we are done.

[Anonymous]

We decided together. We married young, and already had that conversation prior to marriage. We knew going forward, and agreed to x amount of children.

[Anonymous]

Of couse