Who typically pays for occasional sitter when family visiting?

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Anonymous wrote:We are not well off by DCUM standards, but I would pay for both babysitters.

Otherwise, if you combine rates and divide by the number of kids, it would be $9.25/kid. So their offer of $10 isn't too far off, take that and make up the $5 difference.

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Anonymous wrote:You are doing to leave a 5 month old and 2 month old just to go out with family. This is like an alternate universe to me. If I were visiting you with my 2 mo I’d tell you to pound sand.

OP here. Wow. Are you serious? We are well aware that they are new parents and told them we are happy to do whatever they would like while here, whether it's staying home and cooking dinner or going out, all 8 of us together. This trip is for them and we want them to enjoy it and relax. Bil and sil WANT to go out for some adult time. We let them pick out which days are best, which restaurants they'd like, etc. If they wanted to take baby with them while we left our kids at home, that would have been totally fine as well, as obviously a 2 month old will be primarily sleeping and not very active.

Guess she’s not nursing then.

Huh? You can still go out without a baby if you're nursing. Pump and leave a bottle for the sitter. You'll have twice as much milk when you return.

I would have burst if I attempted that.

All these crazy FTMs of babies are hilarious.

Op go have fun! Ignore these crazies.

Thanks pp, definitely plan to =)

You’re welcome! I left my first born with a friend when he was nine days old. Family wedding. And OMG I was nursing and I survived! He is now eight and no lasting effects

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are not well off by DCUM standards, but I would pay for both babysitters.

Otherwise, if you combine rates and divide by the number of kids, it would be $9.25/kid. So their offer of $10 isn't too far off, take that and make up the $5 difference.

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Definitely. Just assume she'll return the favor when you visit. Unless it's a true financial hardship, "billing" guests is not great.

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My oldest is 11 and I’ve never hired a sitter to go out with visiting family. I reserve sitters for stuff I actually want to do. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are doing to leave a 5 month old and 2 month old just to go out with family. This is like an alternate universe to me. If I were visiting you with my 2 mo I’d tell you to pound sand.

Oh get over yourself. Spending some alone time with adults while your baby is being responsibly cared for is a healthy normal thing.

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Anonymous wrote:You are doing to leave a 5 month old and 2 month old just to go out with family. This is like an alternate universe to me. If I were visiting you with my 2 mo I’d tell you to pound sand.

Oh get over yourself. Spending some alone time with adults while your baby is being responsibly cared for is a healthy normal thing.

I don’t know. I was in a new mom support group with my first. We had a mom’s dinner out when the babies were 2-3 months old. For many that was there first time away from baby and I don’t know any that had used a sitter at that point. Do you guys remember how much a 2 month old nurses?

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest is 11 and I’ve never hired a sitter to go out with visiting family. I reserve sitters for stuff I actually want to do. Lol.

People like you, ugh

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Anonymous wrote:We are not well off by DCUM standards, but I would pay for both babysitters.

Otherwise, if you combine rates and divide by the number of kids, it would be $9.25/kid. So their offer of $10 isn't too far off, take that and make up the $5 difference.

This.

Definitely. Just assume she'll return the favor when you visit. Unless it's a true financial hardship, "billing" guests is not great.

It’s not billing guests. It’s a guest leaving her kid and paying a babysitter.

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If I got stuck paying for the sitters in full, I definitely would have them pay their OWN way at the outings and would not offer to pick up every check. The only people being cheap here are the ILs who are showing up and expecting OP and her DH to finance their entire vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:You are doing to leave a 5 month old and 2 month old just to go out with family. This is like an alternate universe to me. If I were visiting you with my 2 mo I’d tell you to pound sand.

Oh get over yourself. Spending some alone time with adults while your baby is being responsibly cared for is a healthy normal thing.

I don’t know. I was in a new mom support group with my first. We had a mom’s dinner out when the babies were 2-3 months old. For many that was there first time away from baby and I don’t know any that had used a sitter at that point. Do you guys remember how much a 2 month old nurses?

Ok and? When my daughter was 7 days old, my sister watched her while we went out for a few hours for dinner to get a break. She's still alive, healthy and not traumatized. Just took the pump with me.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not well off by DCUM standards, but I would pay for both babysitters.

Otherwise, if you combine rates and divide by the number of kids, it would be $9.25/kid. So their offer of $10 isn't too far off, take that and make up the $5 difference.

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Definitely. Just assume she'll return the favor when you visit. Unless it's a true financial hardship, "billing" guests is not great.

It’s not billing guests. It’s a guest leaving her kid and paying a babysitter.

But the in-laws are paying twice the rate that she’s paying for her own kids.

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So people really go visit family and utilize 15-20 hours of outside babysitting? Like you all think this is totally normal?

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Anonymous wrote:When I mentioned to sil and bil that the rate would be $15/hour and I foresee us needing 15-20 hours of coverage for the 3 dates we'll be going out, they first seemed surprised that we were expecting them to pay, then asked if the sister would accept a lower rate. I refuse to ask the sister that, as the rate is the rate and if she wasn't helping us, she could be covering for another family at her regular hourly rate. This is all through our regular group text btw.

I understand that they're new parents, so this is uncharted territory for them, but am a little annoyed. Should I just suck it up and pay for the difference- they're saying $10/hour would be more reasonable. Yes, from a lower COL area.

In the DMV $10/hour is reasonable for a young teen starting out babysitting. The going rate jumps to $15 pretty quickly and for infants it's often $20. Their issue is sticker shock. They don't realize $15/hour is a good deal.

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Anonymous wrote:When I mentioned to sil and bil that the rate would be $15/hour and I foresee us needing 15-20 hours of coverage for the 3 dates we'll be going out, they first seemed surprised that we were expecting them to pay, then asked if the sister would accept a lower rate. I refuse to ask the sister that, as the rate is the rate and if she wasn't helping us, she could be covering for another family at her regular hourly rate. This is all through our regular group text btw.

I understand that they're new parents, so this is uncharted territory for them, but am a little annoyed. Should I just suck it up and pay for the difference- they're saying $10/hour would be more reasonable. Yes, from a lower COL area.

In the DMV $10/hour is reasonable for a young teen starting out babysitting. The going rate jumps to $15 pretty quickly and for infants it's often $20. Their issue is sticker shock. They don't realize $15/hour is a good deal.

Main babysitter needs an assistant not a 2nd babysitter. You would think someone experienced could handle 4 kids. The entire thing sounds strange.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not well off by DCUM standards, but I would pay for both babysitters.

Otherwise, if you combine rates and divide by the number of kids, it would be $9.25/kid. So their offer of $10 isn't too far off, take that and make up the $5 difference.

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Definitely. Just assume she'll return the favor when you visit. Unless it's a true financial hardship, "billing" guests is not great.

It’s not billing guests. It’s a guest leaving her kid and paying a babysitter.

But the in-laws are paying twice the rate that she’s paying for her own kids.

+1 OP is being cheap.