[Need guy's perspective] Would you be turned off by this? Any way to gain back his interest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As passionate as he seems, I think you being reserved actually saved you from potential problems. If he's really into you, nothing will stop him. He'll try a different approach and less intensity and speed. You should do absolutely nothing.

If he lost interest and that's possible too, guess what - he just thought of you as an easy target to get laid, and proven wrong he'll just chase someone else (passionately, of course!)

Why do you ladies have to be so difficult? The guy didn't just try to laid he SPENT TIME GETTING TO KNOW HER through class! And they texted and went out and kissed why is it so wrong for the dude to want to know if OP wanted (to be with) him? What else would you like him to do? Plus OP may not have verbally expressed the desire but obviously wanted to have sex with him too. I don't know what game she's playing or what issue she had that held her back but yes it's definitely possible he's "turned off" by whatever she was doing to him. And if OP wants to "gain back his interest" she should NOT be doing absolutely nothing! Terrible, terrible advice.

A guy.

He didn't quite spent time getting to know her if it was just through their class! He was just getting her vibe. And now it's time to get to know each other. But he seems like a person who likes to rush things, only to deflate or change his mind minutes later. These early stages are a test of stability and consistency.

If Op's goal to have sex with this guy, she doesn't need to do anything but signal it on a next class and that's super easy. But if she wants a relationship, all initiative has to come from him and it will if he wants it. He's passionate about her, remember? Or is he?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the poster that spent time in Latin America. I did too and agree that men have a different way of "courting" than American men. I wouldn't write him off about those things if you felt there was chemistry.

But the stalkerish behavior would be something to think about- what was it?

[Anonymous]

He's a weirdo, do not pursue.

[Anonymous]

I think he came on way too strong and made you uncomfortable. I think you're in the right.

It's funny, movies and books and TV have taught many of us that it's romantic when guys passionately pursue a woman, often when they've just met. But in reality, that same kind of behavior can be scary and off-putting. I know it freaks me out when a guy comes on too strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As passionate as he seems, I think you being reserved actually saved you from potential problems. If he's really into you, nothing will stop him. He'll try a different approach and less intensity and speed. You should do absolutely nothing.

If he lost interest and that's possible too, guess what - he just thought of you as an easy target to get laid, and proven wrong he'll just chase someone else (passionately, of course!)

Why do you ladies have to be so difficult? The guy didn't just try to laid he SPENT TIME GETTING TO KNOW HER through class! And they texted and went out and kissed why is it so wrong for the dude to want to know if OP wanted (to be with) him? What else would you like him to do? Plus OP may not have verbally expressed the desire but obviously wanted to have sex with him too. I don't know what game she's playing or what issue she had that held her back but yes it's definitely possible he's "turned off" by whatever she was doing to him. And if OP wants to "gain back his interest" she should NOT be doing absolutely nothing! Terrible, terrible advice.

A guy.

LOL at "difficult ladies"!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he came on way too strong and made you uncomfortable. I think you're in the right.

It's funny, movies and books and TV have taught many of us that it's romantic when guys passionately pursue a woman, often when they've just met. But in reality, that same kind of behavior can be scary and off-putting. I know it freaks me out when a guy comes on too strong.

I like it, but then again - I'm not American. The problem is, most of those guys that come on strong don't really last with the same consistency. They easily change their mind, start acting as if you're crazy for expecting same level of interest a few weeks later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As passionate as he seems, I think you being reserved actually saved you from potential problems. If he's really into you, nothing will stop him. He'll try a different approach and less intensity and speed. You should do absolutely nothing.

If he lost interest and that's possible too, guess what - he just thought of you as an easy target to get laid, and proven wrong he'll just chase someone else (passionately, of course!)

Why do you ladies have to be so difficult? The guy didn't just try to laid he SPENT TIME GETTING TO KNOW HER through class! And they texted and went out and kissed why is it so wrong for the dude to want to know if OP wanted (to be with) him? What else would you like him to do? Plus OP may not have verbally expressed the desire but obviously wanted to have sex with him too. I don't know what game she's playing or what issue she had that held her back but yes it's definitely possible he's "turned off" by whatever she was doing to him. And if OP wants to "gain back his interest" she should NOT be doing absolutely nothing! Terrible, terrible advice.

A guy.

He didn't quite spent time getting to know her if it was just through their class! He was just getting her vibe. And now it's time to get to know each other. But he seems like a person who likes to rush things, only to deflate or change his mind minutes later. These early stages are a test of stability and consistency.

If Op's goal to have sex with this guy, she doesn't need to do anything but signal it on a next class and that's super easy. But if she wants a relationship, all initiative has to come from him and it will if he wants it. He's passionate about her, remember? Or is he?

Depends on the class. Cooking, dancing, or any activity like that will allow plenty of chances to learn about another person. Painting or piano classes no so much. But I guarantee you they're not taking Bible studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As passionate as he seems, I think you being reserved actually saved you from potential problems. If he's really into you, nothing will stop him. He'll try a different approach and less intensity and speed. You should do absolutely nothing.

If he lost interest and that's possible too, guess what - he just thought of you as an easy target to get laid, and proven wrong he'll just chase someone else (passionately, of course!)

Why do you ladies have to be so difficult? The guy didn't just try to laid he SPENT TIME GETTING TO KNOW HER through class! And they texted and went out and kissed why is it so wrong for the dude to want to know if OP wanted (to be with) him? What else would you like him to do? Plus OP may not have verbally expressed the desire but obviously wanted to have sex with him too. I don't know what game she's playing or what issue she had that held her back but yes it's definitely possible he's "turned off" by whatever she was doing to him. And if OP wants to "gain back his interest" she should NOT be doing absolutely nothing! Terrible, terrible advice.

A guy.

He didn't quite spent time getting to know her if it was just through their class! He was just getting her vibe. And now it's time to get to know each other. But he seems like a person who likes to rush things, only to deflate or change his mind minutes later. These early stages are a test of stability and consistency.

If Op's goal to have sex with this guy, she doesn't need to do anything but signal it on a next class and that's super easy. But if she wants a relationship, all initiative has to come from him and it will if he wants it. He's passionate about her, remember? Or is he?

Depends on the class. Cooking, dancing, or any activity like that will allow plenty of chances to learn about another person.

The point of the matter is that he didn't really invest ANY time to get to know her, they were just at the same class. Yet, he expected to get laid that same night?!
Yes, sometimes sex happens with a complete stranger. Is it a good idea? Most of the time - not.

[Anonymous]

Red flags galore. He sounds like a textbook Narcissist. Girlfriend, you dodged a bullet. Be glad!

[Anonymous]

He put on the full court press and you shut him down. I wouldn't sweat it. If he's truly interested, he won't be deterred by one date. If he was hoping for a hit and run, you won't hear from him again.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to be with someone you can barely communicate with? Sounds way too stressful and ripe for disaster in one form or another.

[Anonymous]

I live in Los Angeles and I’m blonde. Latino guys love me and this guy is weird. I date prettty much only Latinos and no one behaves like this unless they’re weird/desperate. Move along. You can find a new Latino.