Guilt over having an only child

[Anonymous]

As an only child i was somehow very aware that everything i had would be shared if I’d had a sibling - toys, bedroom, parents time etc.

People asked me all the time if i wished i had a sibling and i looked at them like they’d lost their minds every time.

Being an only child is a wonderful gift, you need to believe that for your DC to believe it.

[Anonymous]

My son looked at me today after playing at the neighbors’ houses all week, and said, “Man, I’m glad I don’t have a brother or a sister. There is so much fighting when there are more than one kid.”

I’m only 33 so I could probably have more, but one is just so smooth that I don’t want to rock the boat. Live it up and do all the cool things you couldn’t do with a baby in the picture. Sign him up for his passions, vacation somewhere cool, volunteer to coach/lead his activities. Life is good with one.

[Anonymous]

I have two kids and they seem to get along great for now. That said, I have a brother and we barely speak (like a couple times a year and only if we’re in the same place). We only fought and resented each other growing up.

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself . Be grateful for the one healthy child you have. Despite today’s technology , having a healthy child is up to god. In 14 years of regular unprotected sex, one healthy pregnancy and have a beautiful child (after 4 years of fertility treatments). I always assumed I would have 3-4 children. After what I endured to have one I thank my lucky stars . When my child complains about not having siblings I say, god only gave me one baby in my tummy, so this is our family and im so grateful for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two. It has its ups and downs. I don’t regret my second but often feel guilt over what my first has missed out on (mostly attention) because there are two.

You are damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Try to let it go OP. Your DC will be fine.

NP. I totally agree.

+ 2. There are pros and cons for everything and an infinite number of "what ifs." Don't drive yourself crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself . Be grateful for the one healthy child you have. Despite today’s technology , having a healthy child is up to god. In 14 years of regular unprotected sex, one healthy pregnancy and have a beautiful child (after 4 years of fertility treatments). I always assumed I would have 3-4 children. After what I endured to have one I thank my lucky stars . When my child complains about not having siblings I say, god only gave me one baby in my tummy, so this is our family and im so grateful for you.

So because you could only have one child, OP isn't allowed to complain or vent?

[Anonymous]

Have you considered adopting or fostering a child? Lots of kids in this area need good homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself . Be grateful for the one healthy child you have. Despite today’s technology , having a healthy child is up to god. In 14 years of regular unprotected sex, one healthy pregnancy and have a beautiful child (after 4 years of fertility treatments). I always assumed I would have 3-4 children. After what I endured to have one I thank my lucky stars . When my child complains about not having siblings I say, god only gave me one baby in my tummy, so this is our family and im so grateful for you.

You are a BITCH. Not very close to God, are ya?