Is a wedding at a 'plantation' bad form? or romantic?

[Anonymous]

What are you romanticizing OP? Darkies working in the fields?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the issue. It's history.

Do you also not tour houses like Mount Vernon?

... or the White House?

[Anonymous]

I vote bad form but even if you don’t think that, thinking if s plantation as “romantic” is incredibly tone deaf.

[Anonymous]

It bothers me, but I think the details matter, too. I've seen plantation weddings that really leaned into the Romantic Old South stuff, which I think it tone-deaf and gross. Or all-white events with AA catering staff. Yuck. I get it, some of those homes and grounds are lovely, but I just find it hard to find them "romantic." Too often it seems to be nostalgia for a highly sanitized version of the past, which was a sort of faux nobility based on the enslavement and torture of black people.

[Anonymous]

I would think nothing of it and have a grand time. Grow up, snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally ok with it but you have to decide how you feel.

We are all living on land we violently took from Native Americans and we don’t let that bother us enough not to do it.

This is the truest statement in this entire thread. If you complain about plantations, you better complain about every inch of soil you step on day to day. Cause guess what, you’re just as guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally ok with it but you have to decide how you feel.

We are all living on land we violently took from Native Americans and we don’t let that bother us enough not to do it.

This is the truest statement in this entire thread. If you complain about plantations, you better complain about every inch of soil you step on day to day. Cause guess what, you’re just as guilty.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally ok with it but you have to decide how you feel.

We are all living on land we violently took from Native Americans and we don’t let that bother us enough not to do it.

This is the truest statement in this entire thread. If you complain about plantations, you better complain about every inch of soil you step on day to day. Cause guess what, you’re just as guilty.

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You honestly don't see the difference in someone *choosing* to hold a wedding on a plantation? Seriously? And considering it "romantic"? Come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally ok with it but you have to decide how you feel.

We are all living on land we violently took from Native Americans and we don’t let that bother us enough not to do it.

This is the truest statement in this entire thread. If you complain about plantations, you better complain about every inch of soil you step on day to day. Cause guess what, you’re just as guilty.

Surely you can recognize that you're living on occupied land while also recognizing that getting married in a hotel or the beach is a better choice than having a "romantic" wedding at a plantation.

[Anonymous]

Awful

[Anonymous]

I feel like if you call it a plantation wedding that is gross. But in the south this is just like...usually an attractive large house in a natural area that makes a good place for a lot of outdoor ceremonies. I feel like if you stay away from going too 'old south' in the theme and don't call it a plantation then I wouldn't really care.

[Anonymous]

I got married 20 years ago, which is almost a generation ago. My DH and i got married in a church and had our reception at Gunston Hall Plantation (George Mason's home.) I wanted a unique location. Also, I majored in History in college and liked the idea of celebrating my marriage in a historic, Virginia location. Back then, most of my friends were having receptions in hotel ballrooms and I wanted something different. The reception was not held in the home but in their museum, which is a modern building. We did take photos outside of his house and I have one of us standing in front of the house displayed prominently in my living room. The other aspect I really liked about the location is all of my guests received a guided tour of the house while we were taking photos. The thought of Mason owning slaves never entered my mind. I'm not sure if I would choose the same location today but he is a very prominent figure in our history.

[Anonymous]

Blech.

So much misery and heartache and suffering in the history of plantations. I'd never be able to whitewash that away to conjure up some mythic southern past without slavery.

I personally would find it revolting.

[Anonymous]

I’m by black and have attended at least 3 DMV plantation weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally ok with it but you have to decide how you feel.

We are all living on land we violently took from Native Americans and we don’t let that bother us enough not to do it.

This is the truest statement in this entire thread. If you complain about plantations, you better complain about every inch of soil you step on day to day. Cause guess what, you’re just as guilty.

No. We can feel bad about the land "we" stole (my people stole nothing since we were stolen, but that's another story...) and not romanticize the slavery era by holding a wedding at a plantation. But whatever white people, go ahead and do what you want which is what you always do anyway.