Is a wedding at a 'plantation' bad form? or romantic?

[Anonymous]

Huh...
Caring about black history
Or
Having a gorgeous outdoor wedding that will look amazing on Instagram.
Hardly a choice.

[Anonymous]

Many southern women fantasize about having a Scarlett O'Hara moment on their wedding day. It's a southern thing.

[Anonymous]

Send the RSVP back as "Will not attend ..and frankly my dear I don't give a damn". Nuf said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many southern women fantasize about having a Scarlett O'Hara moment on their wedding day. It's a southern thing.

Oh don’t worry, racism is a southern thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Many southern women fantasize about having a Scarlett O'Hara moment on their wedding day. It's a southern thing.

Oh don’t worry, racism is a southern thing.

And Northern. And Midwestern. And Western. And urban. And rural. And European. And Asian. And Latino. And African. You get the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you condone a plantation wedding, you are racist. Full stop.

All of the explanations from racist posters trying to justify a plantation wedding are just making them sound even more racist.

The arguments are weak and ridiculous. No one is stopping you from having a plantation wedding, but have the guts to admit you are racist and simply don't care about black history.

I guess you'd turn down an invitation to the White House (built with slave labor and lived in by slaves and presidents who owned slaves). Maybe we should tear down the White House?

Most of the arguments are weak nor ridiculous. Some people are bothered. Others are not because it's ancient history and don't feel trapped by the past and refuse to turn things into symbols. You are not morally better or more intelligent because you have different views. Shouting racism at people for having different opinions does not make your case stronger.

[Anonymous]

white folks gonna do whatever they want without guilt, so why start now?

Personally, as a child of non-white immigrants I find it distasteful considering the nation’s history. I think it’s unfair to glamorize it in the name of “southern things” or whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

YA'LL. I'm on maternity leave so sitting around watching a lot of trashy TV, including the episode of Four Weddings that is on TLC right now. This episode is in Charleston, and the first bride's wedding is on a old plantation and, I shit you not, her theme is "Wrapped in Cotton." Evidently her grandparents own a ton of cotton farms in Arkansas, so she used raw cotton for EVERYTHING - bouquets, decor, the cross hanging over the 'altar.' So cringey. The one black bride of the four did not seem real cool with it, as you can imagine.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what else they were expecting on a plantation?!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2019/08/08/some-white-people-dont-want-hear-about-slavery-plantations-built-by-slaves/

[Anonymous]

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Great, you won. Go have a cookie. You're more "rational" than every other person who has an emotional response to plantations, which remind many of us of death camps.

Universities do not remind people of death camps. The world isn't fair. Le fin.

More slave-apologist and white privilege drivel. BTW - if you can't use English words correctly, you should definitely stay away from foreign words. La fin.

What are you talking about? People are allowed to feel uncomfortable at plantation death camps.

It's difficult to have a frank discussion if you are going to call them plantation death camps. Slaves were extremely valuable and expensive commodity. A typical slave cost more money than most American made in years. The slaveholders had a vested interest in their well being to an extent. Your typical slave had a diet and health care standard not atypical of free working laborers, black and white, of the time. The purpose of the plantation was not to work people to death or to exterminate them as the holocaust death camps were.

+1.

It is insulting to call them death camps.

Insulting to who? Brides?

Maybe it’s insulting to people who believe slaves where treated nicely.

It's insulting to those who were IN the death camps.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a problem with it, but that’s because I’m Canadian. That’s your history, not mine. We help free slaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many southern women fantasize about having a Scarlett O'Hara moment on their wedding day. It's a southern thing.

Making a dress from curtains?

[Anonymous]

Ppl who think plantation weddings are ok are the same folks who buy those dried cotton stem accents at michael’s for their centerpieces and then feign like they don’t know what the fuss is about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slaves were very expensive. Plantations weren’t trying to kill slaves.

In many places the government would reimburse owners for the value of any slave the owner killed, as long as the owner certified the slave committed a crime (a forced confession would do). It helped keep the others in line.

In Kentucky: https://nkaa.uky.edu/nkaa/items/show/2099

But if that’s not enough equivalence for you, then fine. Let’s say We exclude the 8 or so extermination camps from the conversation. How about holding weddings at one of the hundreds of non-extermination concentration camps? For example, Ravensbruck, the women’s camp in Germany, is really pretty. It’s right on a lake and there are swans. The women there were used as forced labor for the nearby Siemens plant. Sound good?

There is something so weird about people who seem sooooo invested in insisting this is just fine. What a strange thing to dig in your heels on.

[Anonymous]

Will they jump the broom?