We got in center school is home school- how do we tell our kid?

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

I disagree with this. The NNAT and CoGAT scores are not based on genetics. Let’s not forget the CoGAT is an ability test and can be prepped for. If the entrance was based purely on WISC, I would say ok, we don’t need to be proud they got in, but you know the commitee looks at other data points in a holistic way. Work samples, teacher comments, letters of recommendation. A child who works hard in the general class and has borderline scores, yeah I think deserves some congratulations especially if it was the other data points that helped get him/her in.

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Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders..

Tell that to all of the kids attending prep camps for NNAT and CogAT.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

How is it different from congratulating someone who got into TJ?

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We handled it the same way we always have - we just told our kid that they were going into the class that best fit their academic needs. Our older one was in gen ed but goes to special-needs private now because it was a better fit for them. Since they're differently situated, we frame it in terms of different people needing different things.

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Some intelligence is innate, but environment plays a huge role. In order to develop intelligence, you still have to instill a strong work ethic. Sure, some kids may have to work harder than others. I say congratulations to them all for getting in!

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

How is it different from congratulating someone who got into TJ?

Because you're generally congratulating a high-schooler on achieving something that is likely important to them and that they have worked hard for, not a 2nd-grader who scored well on an IQ test. Getting accepted to TJ required both smarts and hard work; getting accepted to AAP generally does not.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

For some it does require hard work!

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

How is it different from congratulating someone who got into TJ?

Because you're generally congratulating a high-schooler on achieving something that is likely important to them and that they have worked hard for, not a 2nd-grader who scored well on an IQ test. Getting accepted to TJ required both smarts and hard work; getting accepted to AAP generally does not.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

One could argue that getting into TJ is also the result of genetics and innate intelligence. The TJ kids at one point had to have gotten into AAP.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

How is it different from congratulating someone who got into TJ?

Because you're generally congratulating a high-schooler on achieving something that is likely important to them and that they have worked hard for, not a 2nd-grader who scored well on an IQ test. Getting accepted to TJ required both smarts and hard work; getting accepted to AAP generally does not.

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

One could argue that getting into TJ is also the result of genetics and innate intelligence. The TJ kids at one point had to have gotten into AAP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having been through this for 3 kids - do your kid a favor and say nothing. The 3d graders who announce to the teacher and the other kids that "they are in AAP/the smart class" are universally mocked by the staff and other parents and can be insufferable. Your child is very young, has very limited social filters, and does not understand what being in AAP means. In my personal experience, BTW, the kids who trumpeted their AAP acceptance at age 9 were not the strongest students in the program by 8th grade... It will come up eventually from some child, so wait until then to explain to your child that they have the same opportunity as all the other kids to do their best at school.

So you’re warning us that kids are surrounded by sh!tty adults would look down on/ universally mock an 8 year old? Jeez.

My thoughts exactly. Kind of shitty. The kids should be excited and proud to be in AAP, not have to hide it.

Basically the NNAT and CogAT scores are based on genetics not hard work as the tests are given to first and second graders. Being proud of scoring well on those tests would be like being proud of being tall. I think it's ridiculous for adults to be mean to an 8 year old, but I also think it's crappy of parents whose kids get into AAP to make the kids feel like they are special because they were lucky enough to have innate aptitude for these tests. As kids get older and actually have to put work into grades, then we can start teaching them to be proud of their hard work.

Really, proud? they can be excited for the opportunity, but proud? These are the kids spouting off about being so smart. They are 2nd graders.

This. When my oldest got in, a friend called to "congratulate" me. Beyond bizarre.

People also congratulate others for getting into a private preschool, so there’s that.

Besides, AAP was obviously a desirable program for you, otherwise you wouldn’t have applied. Why humblebrag?