We got in center school is home school- how do we tell our kid?

[Anonymous]

Part of me wants to not tell child at all and just go to school next year and be in a different class with some new kids..... Part of me knows that the truth will come out eventually and I should own the narrative. Most of me hates the fact that we have to make this decision. So help, how and when are you going to tell your child. I don't want my kid to be overly proud of something that isn't really within his control (genes/ses/ educated parents).

[Anonymous]

Depends which school

[Anonymous]

DD will be doing local level IV at our regular school and I have no plans to tell her anything. If someone at school mentions it and she asks about it I will explain but I do not need my kid talking about it at school. At some point the kids all figure it out but I don’t need her to be the one who fills everyone else in. If she were changing schools I might feel differently and she may need more of an explanation.

[Anonymous]

My kid wasn’t homeschooled but I didn’t make it a big deal or act like it was something to be proud of. I just said: you have the opportunity to go to the center school. I know you like math and I think you might like the additional math you could take there. We will go to the open house and learn more.

[Anonymous]

Our base school is a center school. We went to the orientation but didn't really make an announcement. She just went to 3rd grade.

The kids do talk. We've occasionally had to correct her when she talks about the AAP kids.

[Anonymous]

My son has been really bored so I said he’d be able to go to a class with accelerated math. He’s already in accelerated math in second grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our base school is a center school. We went to the orientation but didn't really make an announcement. She just went to 3rd grade.

The kids do talk. We've occasionally had to correct her when she talks about the AAP kids.

Our base school is also a center school. Do you think it is important to go to the orientation since we already know about the school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our base school is a center school. We went to the orientation but didn't really make an announcement. She just went to 3rd grade.

The kids do talk. We've occasionally had to correct her when she talks about the AAP kids.

Our base school is also a center school. Do you think it is important to go to the orientation since we already know about the school?

I was curious what they would say. They gave a good sell. From what I've read on this forum, different centers do it differently.

[Anonymous]

We went for our first kid, so we told her and talked about it a little. It was worth it to hear what they do that's different. Also, kids in her grade talked about it a lot so we had to address it. With our second he had no idea and we didn't go to the orientation so we didn't tell him. I think we finally talked about it in 5th grade when he was having a sad time and calling himself stupid. But he still never mentions it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would say something. You want to be the one who forms the narrative of what the differences between AAP and Gen Ed classes are. I did with my oldest and didn't hear discussions about Gen Ed versus AAP while he was in elementary. I didn't with my second one and I started hearing about the "base" kids not being as smart and that's why they weren't in AAP. Kids talk to each other and it's important that you make it clear that many kids who aren't in AAP end up at the top of their class in high school and that many outperform former AAP students. I explained that some kids don't test well and others blossom academically a little later, so being in AAP just mean right now that's a good fit for her and not a reflection on overall intelligence of students who aren't in AAP. I also told her to not say "base kids" and "AAP kids." They are all just "X school kids" in different classes like in K-2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would say something. You want to be the one who forms the narrative of what the differences between AAP and Gen Ed classes are. I did with my oldest and didn't hear discussions about Gen Ed versus AAP while he was in elementary. I didn't with my second one and I started hearing about the "base" kids not being as smart and that's why they weren't in AAP. Kids talk to each other and it's important that you make it clear that many kids who aren't in AAP end up at the top of their class in high school and that many outperform former AAP students. I explained that some kids don't test well and others blossom academically a little later, so being in AAP just mean right now that's a good fit for her and not a reflection on overall intelligence of students who aren't in AAP. I also told her to not say "base kids" and "AAP kids." They are all just "X school kids" in different classes like in K-2.

+100. Kids will know and will talk about it. Even if you try to shelter your child, by the first week of 3rd grade, that child will know that he or she is in AAP and will also have some idea that not AAP = not smart. It's much better for you as a parent to frame the entire discussion.

[Anonymous]

I was planning on not telling my child and just having him start next year. We won’t have to switch schools either.

[Anonymous]

We are at a center school and my 2nd grader was already talking about AAP this week before the decision came out. I didn’t say anything about it so he was hearing it from the other kids.

[Anonymous]

Just realized I will have to tell her Bc orientation is coming up.

[Anonymous]

Is going to the orientation necessary for the child who got in? If the base school is the Center school? Or can just the parent go?