what time does your wife wake up during the week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

My wife was like that for most of the 16 years we were married. Notice the past tense.

I was the one with the full-time job and was the default parent from ES onward. She routinely slept until 10 a.m. or later and only made half-hearted efforts to find work.

Maddening.

She sounded so happy to be married to you...

[Anonymous]

Op, why are you still home at 10:45?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, why are you still home at 10:45?

try again. reread the original post if you need to.

[Anonymous]

4:30 am 3x a week to be out of house by 6. Works 7-3:30/4pm. Other two weekdays up by 5:30 to exercise. Weekends by 6 to exercise and church on Sunday.

When she was SAH almost the same as she ran 3x. A week with neighbor. Always up by 6 to get kids ready for school. She’s always been super organized and hard worker.

Only downside is that she’s tired by 8 or 9 and I’m a night person. We make it work.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry a woman without a job or who doesn't want a job.

Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

I don’t work. Kids are grown. I love to stay up late and sleep in the next day. I still get all my chores done. My husband is happy.

OP didn’t say if his wife gets things done. Just complained about her sleep and bathroom habits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, why are you still home at 10:45?

try again. reread the original post if you need to.

Honestly, it was poorly written.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

Dafuq? How can this be healthy?

I did this for months after childbirth. DH was pissed I would disappear for so long but I had a lot of pain (not hemorrhoids). I eventually got an ointment that helped.

Anyway, DH and I take turns getting up at 5 to go to work. The one who handles school drop of that day gets to sleep till 6 or 6:30.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a DW and I get up at 2:00 PM. I go to sleep at 5:00 AM, though. Kids are grown & DH and I run our own company, so I get a lot of work done in the wee morning hours when others are sleeping.

This is close to my dream schedule, which is bed around 3am, sleep til 11ish. I did this in school and it was amazing. As is, I go to bed around 1:30 and sleep til 7:45 during the week. I do the dream schedule on Friday and Saturday.

I'm another that goes to bed late and sleeps in till about 9am. I work shift work so this works well for me. Dh is also a late riser. When we have kids I am assuming our pattern will change. I get chores done around the house on most days, however will also have relaxing days where the dishwasher is stacked and that's about it. At the end of the day with two of us, the chores aren't excessive so they are easily kept up with. Dh and I both work so we share the chores as well.

Op have you talked to your wife about this. 45 minutes in the bathroom is excessive. Does your wife do other chores? My DH will leave his plates on the table and I am always taking them to the dishwasher however he will vacuum before I get to it. I will clean the bathroom but he'll mow the lawns. We share the cooking. It sort of balances itself out. Is your wife doing anything around the house?

If she isn't then this would concern me. Do you have kids? If you don't then I think you need to seriously consider where your life is going before you bring kids into the mix. If you do have kids would getting a cleaner help the situation? Does she work? If you don't have kids does she want to work, would this help?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife was up at 5 am today, and she will nap from 1 pm-2 pm. But that is not really what you are asking, are you?

Your wife may be depressed, may have undiagnosed medical issues (check her thyroid) or may be she has ADD.

It could also be that there is nothing in her day that is pressing and needs to be done. In anycase, if she needs someone to help her with household chores, then you should get a cleaner.

If she is sleeping until 10 am and spending an hour in the bathroom the only issue with her chores is that she isn't doing them. I think you were just trolling.

Lol. I can assure you that I am not trolling. Not everyone is great at all jobs and some people get overwhelmed by domestic chores. They need some hand holding. My wife has done a bang up job for our kids education and is perhaps more knowledgeable about college admissions than a highly paid counselor. I do not have to worry at all about that at all. But she cannot function in chaos and clutter. Having a maid come in twice a week allows her to manage the household better, as she gets to direct how things need to be cleaned in the house. You

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife was up at 5 am today, and she will nap from 1 pm-2 pm. But that is not really what you are asking, are you?

Your wife may be depressed, may have undiagnosed medical issues (check her thyroid) or may be she has ADD.

It could also be that there is nothing in her day that is pressing and needs to be done. In anycase, if she needs someone to help her with household chores, then you should get a cleaner.

If she is sleeping until 10 am and spending an hour in the bathroom the only issue with her chores is that she isn't doing them. I think you were just trolling.

Lol. I can assure you that I am not trolling. Not everyone is great at all jobs and some people get overwhelmed by domestic chores. They need some hand holding. My wife has done a bang up job for our kids education and is perhaps more knowledgeable about college admissions than a highly paid counselor. I do not have to worry about that at all. But she cannot function in chaos and clutter. Having a maid come in twice a week allows her to manage the household better, as she gets to direct how things need to be cleaned in the house.

You cannot know truly what is going on with any individual. Your own experience does not mean that it is universally true for everyone. Op and his wife are still part of a family unit and they need to make up for each others shortcomings.

[Anonymous]

Why do you make her breakfast?
Why do you do her dishes?

[Anonymous]

As soon as I am out of bed and she knows she doesn’t need to have sex.