what time does your wife wake up during the week?

[Anonymous]

Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

[Anonymous]

She sounds depressed. And you’re not her dad.

[Anonymous]

Does she not work?

And wait, is this the OP that previously posted about his wife doing nothing all day?

[Anonymous]

Both of us get up at 5:45.

I do breakfast dishes sometimes in the evening because my wife did 100 other things that day.

[Anonymous]

Well, I struggle with depression so today I am still under the covers on my phone at 11am. Other days I am up at 5:30 heading to the gym.

[Anonymous]

What is the point here, besides to bash women? You had me until your misogynist question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

My wife was like that for most of the 16 years we were married. Notice the past tense.

I was the one with the full-time job and was the default parent from ES onward. She routinely slept until 10 a.m. or later and only made half-hearted efforts to find work.

Maddening.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming this is for working from home or non working spouses.
Dh gets up at 4:30 and leaves for gym/work.
I get up 6/6:30 whenever the preschooler barges into my room. If I wasn't working I'd get up then too since there's no sleeping though "mommy mommy, want pee, want milk, want cartoon, hold my bunny, help get jnto bed with mommy, bounce bounce bounce!"

In your case sounds like your wife is depressed, or has some other motivation issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds depressed. And you’re not her dad.

"depressed" no its just lazy and implying that the OP is somehow out of line an attempt to shame or gaslight the husband into thinking he has no right to expect at 50/50 partnership or to hold his "partner" accountable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds depressed. And you’re not her dad.

"depressed" no its just lazy and implying that the OP is somehow out of line an attempt to shame or gaslight the husband into thinking he has no right to expect at 50/50 partnership or to hold his "partner" accountable.

Being depressed is not a free pass, she get help or they divorce.

Idk anybody that is not a teen who sleeps till 10 and I don't know any woman who sits on the toilet for 45 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Divorce her and do not have children with her unless you just want to financially support her forever. This will not get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

Is this something she developed recently or has always been? If former, she might be depressed or something is going on. If the latter, you’re the enabler In either case if it’s not working for you, have you tried talking to her about it? Does she work? Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

I'm the wife and I get up at 5:20am. My DH gets up at 6am. Both out the door with the kids by 7:15am.

[Anonymous]

Does she not have a job? Do you have kids? What sort of "benefits" is she getting out of her marriage to you besides your ability to make breakfast and wash a plate?

I am a DW and get up at 6 am. I leave for work at 7.

When I was on maternity leave, I'd sleep in til 8.

[Anonymous]

This was my husband when he was unemployed for 8 months, I didn't make him breakfast though.