what time does your wife wake up during the week?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She sounds depressed. And you’re not her dad.

"depressed" no its just lazy and implying that the OP is somehow out of line an attempt to shame or gaslight the husband into thinking he has no right to expect at 50/50 partnership or to hold his "partner" accountable.

Being depressed is not a free pass, she get help or they divorce.

Idk anybody that is not a teen who sleeps till 10 and I don't know any woman who sits on the toilet for 45 minutes.

Np: Now lets not bash those of who can sleep in. I WAH and get up around 7am during the week, but if we have no plans, I can easily sleep until 10 or 11 on weekends and, maybe, take a nap in the afternoon. I didn’t do this with a young child, but with a teen I can.

[Anonymous]

Do you have children? I agree she sounds depressed. I work full time and get up at 5:30 am every morning to workout in my basement before work. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I've' been on medication in the past. I've been off it for about a year, and I find that being on a very firm schedule, going to sleep early/getting up early, and exercising regularly at a high intensity really helps keep my depression/anxiety under control.

I hope your wife is able to find help if she is struggling.

[Anonymous]

I'm a stay at home parent and I get up around 6:00 to get my teenagers up for their 6:45 bus. I go downstairs and make lunches for the kids and my husband if he requests it. If anyone wants breakfast, they can grab a cereal bar. Nobody wants cooked food that early in the morning. At 7:00 I wake up my youngest child for his 8:00 bus. I then take a shower while he watches TV and eats his cereal bar.

Once the last kid is out the door, I probably spend 1-2 hours online reading the news and assorted social websites. I frequently make myself daily to-do lists as a reminder to not spend all day on the computer (which sometimes happens if I'm feeling down). The list includes domestic chores and errands. If I get half the list done I feel pretty good about myself. Kids start coming home around 2:30 which is when I need to perform air traffic control to keep them from killing each other. Some days I have a hot dinner ready for everyone by the time husband comes home. Other days, kids have short order items (grilled cheese or scrambled eggs) and husband has to fix his own meal when he comes home. It really depends on how the day rolls. I almost always do the dishes at the end of the day.

[Anonymous]

What are you, her daddy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stay at home parent and I get up around 6:00 to get my teenagers up for their 6:45 bus. I go downstairs and make lunches for the kids and my husband if he requests it. If anyone wants breakfast, they can grab a cereal bar. Nobody wants cooked food that early in the morning. At 7:00 I wake up my youngest child for his 8:00 bus. I then take a shower while he watches TV and eats his cereal bar.

Once the last kid is out the door, I probably spend 1-2 hours online reading the news and assorted social websites. I frequently make myself daily to-do lists as a reminder to not spend all day on the computer (which sometimes happens if I'm feeling down). The list includes domestic chores and errands. If I get half the list done I feel pretty good about myself. Kids start coming home around 2:30 which is when I need to perform air traffic control to keep them from killing each other. Some days I have a hot dinner ready for everyone by the time husband comes home. Other days, kids have short order items (grilled cheese or scrambled eggs) and husband has to fix his own meal when he comes home. It really depends on how the day rolls. I almost always do the dishes at the end of the day.

That is a significant amount of time. If your effective working time is from 8 - 2:30 that is 6 hours - 2 = 4 hours or 2/6 = 1/3 of the time.

[Anonymous]

my DW gets up at 0530. Goes to bed around 0930 or so. I ususaly get up at 0505 and shower first, or I sleep a little later if I'm tired and get up at 0530 when she does, and eat breakfast while she showers. I dont disrupt her time, she full-time-moms the kids in the morning does a bang up job at it too.
Sometimes I empty the dishwasher before I make my breakfast, sometimes not. Shes on extended leave from her teaching career (11 years so far) while our kids have been small but has been keeping accredited and will probably pick up something part time or substitute teaching once our two youngest go to kindergarten in the fall.
Now, weekend mornings I sleep later, at least 6am, maybe even {gulp} 7. Still go to bed at same time, 9 or 930. My body tends to need 8.5-9 hrs of sleep. Just genetics. My mother in law, she watches the 10pm news and then goes to bed and then is up at 5am!

[Anonymous]

Does she have a job? Children that are home with her during the day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stay at home parent and I get up around 6:00 to get my teenagers up for their 6:45 bus. I go downstairs and make lunches for the kids and my husband if he requests it. If anyone wants breakfast, they can grab a cereal bar. Nobody wants cooked food that early in the morning. At 7:00 I wake up my youngest child for his 8:00 bus. I then take a shower while he watches TV and eats his cereal bar.

Once the last kid is out the door, I probably spend 1-2 hours online reading the news and assorted social websites. I frequently make myself daily to-do lists as a reminder to not spend all day on the computer (which sometimes happens if I'm feeling down). The list includes domestic chores and errands. If I get half the list done I feel pretty good about myself. Kids start coming home around 2:30 which is when I need to perform air traffic control to keep them from killing each other. Some days I have a hot dinner ready for everyone by the time husband comes home. Other days, kids have short order items (grilled cheese or scrambled eggs) and husband has to fix his own meal when he comes home. It really depends on how the day rolls. I almost always do the dishes at the end of the day.

Sounds similar to our home, tweaked a little. My wife handles a lot, its no picnic some days. BZ to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stay at home parent and I get up around 6:00 to get my teenagers up for their 6:45 bus. I go downstairs and make lunches for the kids and my husband if he requests it. If anyone wants breakfast, they can grab a cereal bar. Nobody wants cooked food that early in the morning. At 7:00 I wake up my youngest child for his 8:00 bus. I then take a shower while he watches TV and eats his cereal bar.

Once the last kid is out the door, I probably spend 1-2 hours online reading the news and assorted social websites. I frequently make myself daily to-do lists as a reminder to not spend all day on the computer (which sometimes happens if I'm feeling down). The list includes domestic chores and errands. If I get half the list done I feel pretty good about myself. Kids start coming home around 2:30 which is when I need to perform air traffic control to keep them from killing each other. Some days I have a hot dinner ready for everyone by the time husband comes home. Other days, kids have short order items (grilled cheese or scrambled eggs) and husband has to fix his own meal when he comes home. It really depends on how the day rolls. I almost always do the dishes at the end of the day.

That is a significant amount of time. If your effective working time is from 8 - 2:30 that is 6 hours - 2 = 4 hours or 2/6 = 1/3 of the time.

As a former SAHM back in the workplace - do not kid yourself that this is an unusual or excessive amount of online non-work activity for adults, it’s just that it happens in the office instead of at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine consistently sleeps until about 9:20 - 10:00 then warms up the breakfast I make before I leave for work. She sits on the toilet for about 45 minutes while she looks through her social media. I just called her and she is still sitting in the bathroom. When I get home I'll get to wash the breakfast dishes and I'll find her plate still sitting at her place on the table.

Can anyone here remind me what the benefit of marriage is for men these days?

Dafuq? How can this be healthy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a stay at home parent and I get up around 6:00 to get my teenagers up for their 6:45 bus. I go downstairs and make lunches for the kids and my husband if he requests it. If anyone wants breakfast, they can grab a cereal bar. Nobody wants cooked food that early in the morning. At 7:00 I wake up my youngest child for his 8:00 bus. I then take a shower while he watches TV and eats his cereal bar.

Once the last kid is out the door, I probably spend 1-2 hours online reading the news and assorted social websites. I frequently make myself daily to-do lists as a reminder to not spend all day on the computer (which sometimes happens if I'm feeling down). The list includes domestic chores and errands. If I get half the list done I feel pretty good about myself. Kids start coming home around 2:30 which is when I need to perform air traffic control to keep them from killing each other. Some days I have a hot dinner ready for everyone by the time husband comes home. Other days, kids have short order items (grilled cheese or scrambled eggs) and husband has to fix his own meal when he comes home. It really depends on how the day rolls. I almost always do the dishes at the end of the day.

That is a significant amount of time. If your effective working time is from 8 - 2:30 that is 6 hours - 2 = 4 hours or 2/6 = 1/3 of the time.

I find it hard to believe that anyone on DCUM spends less daily online time than that, whether they work outside the house or not. Nobody is required to spend every waking minute doing work. That is not a life.

[Anonymous]

I’m a DW and I get up at 2:00 PM. I go to sleep at 5:00 AM, though. Kids are grown & DH and I run our own company, so I get a lot of work done in the wee morning hours when others are sleeping.

[Anonymous]

PP here...up early today because I had a meeting. It’s a rare event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the point here, besides to bash women? You had me until your misogynist question?

Oh, shut up. If this were about a man everyone would be screeching that OP needs to have a come to Jesus talk with him about making better use of his time.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my mother. She would yell to us from her room to make sure we were awake and going to school. Then she'd eat breakfast in bed. Then get up around noon or 1pm to sit on the couch.

In elementary school, she'd go back to bed and leave us a note saying what time we should wake her to take us to after-school activities. In middle school she'd just say to wake her when our dad called to say he was leaving the office.

My dad would come home from work, change out of his suit into jeans and a t-shirt, throw a load of laundry in, and then start cooking dinner while my sister and I danced around the kitchen talking to him.