Mom getting old, sister grabbing everything in sight

[Anonymous]

Nothing piecemeal, my dear.

You show up with a truck and declare: "Today I'm taking my stuff." And you do. Everything you want in one fell swoop. You put them where your sister can't get at them.

They will both be upset, because they seem like the type that's stupid enough to provoke massive retaliation and then play the victims. Too bad for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a household inventory now. Document everything. Photograph everything. Put a value on everything. When mom goes, she gets 50% minus what she took.

+1.

BTDT. Not going to work.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all the support. It's obvious my sister values stuff more than she does our relationship. I've told her this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Nothing piecemeal, my dear.

You show up with a truck and declare: "Today I'm taking my stuff." And you do. Everything you want in one fell swoop. You put them where your sister can't get at them.

They will both be upset, because they seem like the type that's stupid enough to provoke massive retaliation and then play the victims. Too bad for them.

This seems a little extreme considering the mother is still alive and living in her home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mum sounds like a piece of work- sorry. You are the caregiver and your sister steals yet your mum wants you to engage? This is so messed up.

This! My sister took all my parents silver for "safe keeping" meanwhile we dealt with other BS. I only hope karma is real.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your mom a narc? They love the manufactured drama like this.

[Anonymous]

Ignore. Let her have her trinkets and trash. Make enough to buy your own.

[Anonymous]

Silver isn’t worth much these days. When my MIL was downsizing she couldn’t get much for her silver or antiques.