What to do about DH’s late nights out

When my husband and I were DINKs, I used to meet friends and coworkers for an after work booze dinner (or just drinks) a few times a month. Sometimes we’d be out pretty late. I never cheated, never even occurred to me - it was just fun to drink and hang out with my friends! But my husband was always welcome to join us and about half the time he did join. Why aren’t you ever invited? I’d be suspicious based on that.

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01/24/2019 19:54

Subject: Re:What to do about DH’s late nights out

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Anonymous wrote:So let me see if I can summarize.

DH works from 2PM - 1030PM and comes home every night with the exception of 2/4 times a month when he comes home later (2AM) after being with co-workers/friends.

You don't suspect an affair.

You don't have children.

You have a problem with this because you're "waiting up for him" and "want to spend time with him".

HE WORKS AND SPENDS ALL HIS TIME WITH YOU WITH THE EXCEPTION OF A FEW HOURS A MONTH WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE KIDS!!!!!!

And there are posters saying he doesn't love you.

You people really have no give when it comes to relationships and what you feel is "right". I'm a woman and see absolutely nothing wrong in this scenario except for OPs neediness and need to control her DHs actions simply for no other reason than she doesn't have a life of her own.

Op said he works long hours and isn’t home until 1030pm most nights. I didn’t get the shift work vibe but might’ve missed something.