He told me he has a crush on someone else?

[Anonymous]

A crush is different than being attracted to someone. It's being reeeeaaaally attracted to someone where it makes you feel sick. If you work with the person it's a real issue.

If that happens and you also are bonded and love someone else.. What a mess.

[Anonymous]

I'd set him free to go explore the possibility of being with his crush. I wouldn't want our relationship to interfere with his future happiness. I wouldn't want his crush messing with my future happiness either.

[Anonymous]

There are so many interpretations into this. None of us are you. He's either creating conflict intentionally so you end it and he's not the jerk. (My ex tried that). Or, he's genuinely confused and honest and needed help. Or, he's trying to make you jealous. Or, or. I'd ask him what he wants me to do with this info. And maybe let him go.

[Anonymous]

I think my first question in this circumstances would be; "Help me to understand just exactly what you are trying to tell me?" My thoughts would include-Are you trying to share your crush with me as a friend? Are you trying to make me jealous? or are you just playing games? This really doesn't seem like appropriate behavior for a relationship of a man and a woman who are in their late twenties. I suggest you search your heart and see if you really want to continue this relationship. It looks like there might be a rough ride ahead.

I am praying for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my first question in this circumstances would be; "Help me to understand just exactly what you are trying to tell me?" My thoughts would include-Are you trying to share your crush with me as a friend? Are you trying to make me jealous? or are you just playing games? This really doesn't seem like appropriate behavior for a relationship of a man and a woman who are in their late twenties. I suggest you search your heart and see if you really want to continue this relationship. It looks like there might be a rough ride ahead.

I am praying for you.

Haha!

[Anonymous]

3 way

[Anonymous]

Op here. There will be no 3 way. I’m not breaking up with him either. We’ve talked about this and we’re good.

[Anonymous]

You can't control and independent heart, and you can't you can't tear the one you love apart. If you love someone, set them free. It may sting.

[Anonymous]

You can't control and independent heart, and you can't you can't tear the one you love apart. If you love someone, set them free. It may sting.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be dramatic! Or have a talk or break up immediately. Just do what guys do, subtly give him “space.” Book weekends to do other stuff, take a trip, call your friends you haven’t called since you started dating this guy. And book hair, facial, manicure appointments and get some new cute fitted tops. Then wait and see, give it 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be dramatic! Or have a talk or break up immediately. Just do what guys do, subtly give him “space.” Book weekends to do other stuff, take a trip, call your friends you haven’t called since you started dating this guy. And book hair, facial, manicure appointments and get some new cute fitted tops. Then wait and see, give it 3 months.

This is so pathetic,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. There will be no 3 way. I’m not breaking up with him either. We’ve talked about this and we’re good.

So why did he tell you?? What was his reasoning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be dramatic! Or have a talk or break up immediately. Just do what guys do, subtly give him “space.” Book weekends to do other stuff, take a trip, call your friends you haven’t called since you started dating this guy. And book hair, facial, manicure appointments and get some new cute fitted tops. Then wait and see, give it 3 months.

This is so pathetic,

Dp. It's not pathetic. IMO, I have all the time in the world. If I am confused about the right step forward, I just take a bit of time. 3 months isn't much time if you are using it constructively. Like by primping and getting hot to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't control and independent heart, and you can't you can't tear the one you love apart. If you love someone, set them free. It may sting.

Great song. It does “Sting”