Do married people really get hit on as much as it appears on this board?

[Anonymous]

Married woman, late 30s. I get hit on regularly but it seems like fishing so I don't give it much thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flirted with/stared at? Absolutely. Directly hit on/asked out? No.

+1 I honestly think it's a "vibe' thing. I do not have it and though I consider myself attractive, do not get randomly picked up. I have friends who are way less attractive who do have the "vibe" and get hit on all the time. I also have insanely attractive friends who get that as well but it's understandable. But apples to apples in the looks department, I have a theory that it's about the "vibe" you give off which, now that I think about it, may be phermones. Oh, and blonde hair. That works too.

[Anonymous]

To answer OPs question...no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh yes I definitely think married parents hit on other married parents. I’m fit but dress conservatively and don’t flirt at all and am very happy in my marriage and even I have had what I’d call “testing the water” interactions from other men/dads. My husband thought he was hit in at a parent gathering and at first I thought no way but now years later I think he probably was! Moms dress like they are going out in a Saturday night in skin tight clothes to parent school activities/meetings and in skin tight yoga pants to kid sporting events.

I actually wonder if the wives/moms know what is going on - my DH and I have wondered how much is going on and if BOTH parents are swingers/whatever. There are a lot of heavy drinking charity and other parties happening here. Nothing would surprise me!

Ok. My kids school is like this too. So many of the parents were openly flirting with each other at different parties and events for the school, if not actually sleeping together. First communion was so bizarre. Everybody was walking up to the priest with their spouse and their child like none of this was happening.

[Anonymous]

Early 40s and don’t know if you’d call it flirting or being hit on but work in a male dominated field and get asked if they can take me out for a drink, comments like they want to sit by the hottest woman in the room, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 49 and when I was in my 30's I was hit on a bunch of times. Once it was purely sexual harassment because I was working at an ad agency and the head creative told me that if I wanted good work from his group I needed to sleep with him. I laughed and told him to get lost. He eventually got fired. Another time I was at a few day seminar and the last night one of the guys in my group wanted to sleep with me. I said "you've got to be kidding!". There have been plenty of other too flirty guys even within the past year but none of them required anything other than making an excuse and leaving. I'm as happily married as one can be but I'm pretty outgoing and reasonably attractive (beautiful according to my DH but he is biased!) so this happens. If 35% of marriages end in divorce there are a lot of people out there looking for something.

You must be hot.

[Anonymous]

I’m a married woman, mid 30s. I get hit on often. I actually have 4 people currently trying to get me to have an affair with them. 3 of them are single, one is married. Of the two single ones, one is a woman. Two of them are in their late 20s. I don’t even consider myself to be hot. I’m a size 10 and, although I’ve been trying to work out daily lately, I had been pretty out of shape before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman, mid 30s. I get hit on often. I actually have 4 people currently trying to get me to have an affair with them. 3 of them are single, one is married. Of the two single ones, one is a woman. Two of them are in their late 20s. I don’t even consider myself to be hot. I’m a size 10 and, although I’ve been trying to work out daily lately, I had been pretty out of shape before.

Maybe you just smell really good?

[Anonymous]

I don't get hit on often, but when I do they are usually creepy. 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman, mid 30s. I get hit on often. I actually have 4 people currently trying to get me to have an affair with them. 3 of them are single, one is married. Of the two single ones, one is a woman. Two of them are in their late 20s. I don’t even consider myself to be hot. I’m a size 10 and, although I’ve been trying to work out daily lately, I had been pretty out of shape before.

Maybe you just smell really good?

Would you really have an affair with someone just based on how they smell? How smelly is your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman, mid 30s. I get hit on often. I actually have 4 people currently trying to get me to have an affair with them. 3 of them are single, one is married. Of the two single ones, one is a woman. Two of them are in their late 20s. I don’t even consider myself to be hot. I’m a size 10 and, although I’ve been trying to work out daily lately, I had been pretty out of shape before.

Maybe you just smell really good?

Would you really have an affair with someone just based on how they smell? How smelly is your spouse?

NP - There is a spectrum between smelly - neutral - smelling good. A spouse can smell fine without smelling good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married and relatively young. No one has expressed an interest in me for at least a few years,since I began dating and married my DH.

I can't imagine a normal guy propositioning a clearly married woman.

Then you need to find out why nobody else is interested in you before your DH does.

I have a friend like this. The reason no one other than her husband expresses an interest in her is that she gives off very "closed" vibes. Never slept with anyone other than her husband. Not very sexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman, mid 30s. I get hit on often. I actually have 4 people currently trying to get me to have an affair with them. 3 of them are single, one is married. Of the two single ones, one is a woman. Two of them are in their late 20s. I don’t even consider myself to be hot. I’m a size 10 and, although I’ve been trying to work out daily lately, I had been pretty out of shape before.

Maybe you just smell really good?

Would you really have an affair with someone just based on how they smell? How smelly is your spouse?

NP - There is a spectrum between smelly - neutral - smelling good. A spouse can smell fine without smelling good.

Be that as it may, you would have an affair with someone who smelled good just because your spouses smelled just nice? That’s even worse, if that’s possible.

[Anonymous]

The way some parents carry on, our suburb is like a college campus but with wrinkles

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 37 and a happily married woman. I get hit on usually at least once a month when I'm out and about, for ladies night at the bar etc. I'm attractive but nothing amazing to look at either. I thought this would have stopped by my early 30s, but nope. I'll enjoy it while it lasts

Can you give examples of what you mean when you say “hit on?” Like flirting or directly propositioning etc?

Many women think a simple nice conversation means being hit on. It's all in the eye of the beholder and what they want to think it is. My guess is that she isn't really being hit on but it makes a good story.

I've been alive long enough to know the difference between being hit on and/or propositioned (I've experienced both) and a regular conversation with a guy who is simply friendly or chatting out of boredom. The idea that I wouldn't know the difference between those things is absurd.