Im always late and I hate myself for it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single, no kids so there was no excuse other than being pathological, rude and never acknowledging he has issues.

Just get started 15 minutes earlier. At least you want to stop being late

Yes, because only people with kids have anything that could make them late. I agree that it's not okay that he was late, but statements like this are why childless people feel annoyed by parents.

+10000!!!

Really? Name one thing that would make a childless person chronically late?

Same thing that makes parents chronically late -- failure to plan.

This is the only answer. The absolute only answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't rocket science. If you start prepping for the car 30 minutes before you have to leave and you are 10-12 minutes late, then start prepping the car 45 minutes before you have to leave.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn't rocket science. If you start prepping for the car 30 minutes before you have to leave and you are 10-12 minutes late, then start prepping the car 45 minutes before you have to leave.

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I can’t believe anyone needs 45 minutes to load up into the car! You’re doing it wrong!

When my kids were little, I’d spend 15 minutes or so after they went to bed preparing for the following day, if we had somewhere we were going. I’d reload the diaper bag and put it by the door, along with coats and shoes. Our outfits were put out. I’d prepare and package any food/snacks/bottles and have them in the fridge or in the diaper bag, ready to go.

Are you not doing this?

[Anonymous]

I think the PPs are overlooking how stressful it can be for ontime people to frequently be late. The stress, and trying to avoid the stress actually compound the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid DCUM quote thing. This was meant to be its own response....

I don't really hate that you're late, I hate that you don't call or text me to tell me you're late. I could run an errand or leave my house later. I hate when I rush to get somewhere on time and you are late. Just be honest with me and let me know you'll be late.

Also, don't text me last minute, when I am waiting by myself, when I have a million things to do, but I am taking time out for YOU. Don't be so bloody inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't rocket science. If you start prepping for the car 30 minutes before you have to leave and you are 10-12 minutes late, then start prepping the car 45 minutes before you have to leave.

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I can’t believe anyone needs 45 minutes to load up into the car! You’re doing it wrong!

When my kids were little, I’d spend 15 minutes or so after they went to bed preparing for the following day, if we had somewhere we were going. I’d reload the diaper bag and put it by the door, along with coats and shoes. Our outfits were put out. I’d prepare and package any food/snacks/bottles and have them in the fridge or in the diaper bag, ready to go.

Are you not doing this?

OP's youngest is only a few months old. I'm sure there's sleep deprivation in addition to getting used to the new dynamic with three kids.

However, OP, time to troubleshoot and figure this out. Buy duplicates of things that you are using both out and in the house, and replenish daily/weekly -- put it on the calendar. You have three kids now; there's no real point in only owning one of something you use all the time. You'll get plenty of use out of two of whatever it is.

We have four; #3 is when we learned we could no longer "wing it" in any way if we ever expected to go anywhere. We get up and dressed in the morning with rare exceptions, even on the weekend, and our car bags are always ready to go (we have one full of stuff to do while waiting for food at a restaurant, and one with wipes, hats, sunscreen, bug spray, small towels, and other seasonally-appropriate outdoor items, and if we have a long trip or a park day, one with water and snacks -- my kids are out of diapers now). At this point, everyone is required to have shoes on and go to the bathroom 15 minutes before we have to get in the car. It still sometimes takes us longer than expected, and all of mine are out of diapers and able to buckle themselves in (ages 8, 7, 5, and 3).

You need a routine. An infant can make that harder because things keep changing, but you can do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother was always late. My assessment was that he would figure out how long it took to get somewhere and then he would plan on the fastest possible scenario. I always plan on a scenario that includes unforeseen delays. If I'm early I just do stuff on my phone until it's time. Whereas he got tickets for driving so fast (recklessly) to get somewhere that he hadn't allowed enough time for.

Moral of the story: Plan to be early, not on time. Then you will never be late.

Ha!

That was my DH. I called him on it many, many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single, no kids so there was no excuse other than being pathological, rude and never acknowledging he has issues.

Just get started 15 minutes earlier. At least you want to stop being late

Yes, because only people with kids have anything that could make them late. I agree that it's not okay that he was late, but statements like this are why childless people feel annoyed by parents.

+10000!!!

Really? Name one thing that would make a childless person chronically late?

I am the pp at the top. I got excuses such as:

1. Had to go home to walk the dog.

2. Car needed gas.

3. Had to go to the post office.

All real examples. He would text me when he was late but he was late for almost every single lesson, met twice a week, for a year!

This was for my then 8 yr old. He and I would have to wait at the venue for his coach. Coach was a nice guy but I got fed up and fired him.