Cannot cope with my 15-yo DS dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IMO it is better for teens to go through the initial trials and tribulations of relationships while still living at home (hence in high school). That way they can come to their parents for advice and you can keep an eye on how they ar handling this normal phase of life. Sort of like having training wheels. If you forbid it and force your DS to wait until college to start dating, then you won’t have any idea how he handles it, none. And all the people I knew in high school who weren’t allowed to date at all (for various reasons, such as religious or uber controlling parents or cultural) went bananas as soon as they went to college and made horrible dating decisions. Horrible. Including my best friend who basically slept with everyone on the first date but couldn’t understand why no guy would ask her for a second. She’s divorced now BTW.

I have a niece who never dated in high school (for religious reasons), met a wonderful guy in her freshman college dorm, and now they're two happily married 26 year olds. He was her first boyfriend ever. I give this example to say that sometimes delayed dating does work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IMO it is better for teens to go through the initial trials and tribulations of relationships while still living at home (hence in high school). That way they can come to their parents for advice and you can keep an eye on how they ar handling this normal phase of life. Sort of like having training wheels. If you forbid it and force your DS to wait until college to start dating, then you won’t have any idea how he handles it, none. And all the people I knew in high school who weren’t allowed to date at all (for various reasons, such as religious or uber controlling parents or cultural) went bananas as soon as they went to college and made horrible dating decisions. Horrible. Including my best friend who basically slept with everyone on the first date but couldn’t understand why no guy would ask her for a second. She’s divorced now BTW.

I have a niece who never dated in high school (for religious reasons), met a wonderful guy in her freshman college dorm, and now they're two happily married 26 year olds. He was her first boyfriend ever. I give this example to say that sometimes delayed dating does work out.

PP again - I do recognize marrying your freshman year hallmate is a rare event. My niece grew up in a conservative community and didn't have close friends who dated exclusively in high school either. (She did go to proms with dates).