Husband just ruined our night and now I’m crying. 6 months pregnant and we’re away from our home.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a fan of separate accounts. I think it makes it harder for the couple to keep track of the big financial picture and manage that. Add hormones and soon, a third member of the family, and suddenly you're arguing over $5 - why make it so hard for yourself?

+1. Don’t have kids with a man who won’t share his bank account with you.

[Anonymous]

Oh, good lord. Wait till you have real problems.

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Anonymous wrote:If the night is ruined, it is because you choose for it to be ruined. How you respond is your choice. You could have responded to his comment with a huge smile and "Sure thing! I'll get that $5 to you right away."

This is the core of the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:1. He should know better than to be mean.
2. He should know better than to be mean to a hormonal pregnant woman
3. You should know better that you’re pregnant and very emotional about everything
4. $200 is way too much on books. I love books and we have a ton but we had a bring a book baby shower and many many baby books came from places like Marshall’s for $3 and thrift stores and the library.
Reassess what’s really bothering you and don’t set yourself up or your husband up for this sort of thing as it’ll be a long parenting road otherwise.
Same goes for him. Not every battle is with fighting for.

All of this.

Baby is not born yet.

Slow down mama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much have you spent on "nesting" OP? I'm feeling like you may have a shopping habit that is stressing your husband out.

+1.

6 months is a bit early to be nesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. He should know better than to be mean.
2. He should know better than to be mean to a hormonal pregnant woman
3. You should know better that you’re pregnant and very emotional about everything
4. $200 is way too much on books. I love books and we have a ton but we had a bring a book baby shower and many many baby books came from places like Marshall’s for $3 and thrift stores and the library.
Reassess what’s really bothering you and don’t set yourself up or your husband up for this sort of thing as it’ll be a long parenting road otherwise.
Same goes for him. Not every battle is with fighting for.

This exactly.

[Anonymous]

Team husband. You’re away and likely won’t get a childless weekend for awhile after baby... and you want to spend it reading to your belly? If you haven’t had a baby shower I’d request books instead of/or addition to gifts. Also tj max has great books for cheap. Your hormones are getting the bet of you

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I recommend combining most of your money and giving each person a little fun money account. The joint pool should be enough for all living expenses plus some (family vacations, etc.) Your expenses are about to ramp up big time once you add a baby into the mix, and it could impact your careers. You don't want to argue over an expensive coffee habit, but you also don't want to have to go after your partner's half of a $40 case of diapers or have to negotiate formula costs if breastfeeding doesn't work. DH and I each get a few hundred a month to spend on whatever we want. Mine goes to girls' nights and books, his to videogames and cigars.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people already said what I would have said, so I won’t address it.

BUT, if you live in DC you can get free books sent every month from birth to 5 years old. Through Dolly Parton’s foundation. It’s an amazing amount of books. So do that, OP, if it’s an option. It’s through DCPL.

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$200 on books for a baby that’s not here? Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Oh hon, you are super hormonal.
$200 is insane to spend on baby books.
I can ship you 50-100 that I've gotten as gifts over the years.
Also, go to the library. Libraries are great for young kids
- mom of 4 voracious readers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people already said what I would have said, so I won’t address it.

BUT, if you live in DC you can get free books sent every month from birth to 5 years old. Through Dolly Parton’s foundation. It’s an amazing amount of books. So do that, OP, if it’s an option. It’s through DCPL.

Most of the people in DC are too wealthy for those books.

I hope that you are not a typical dcum poster using something meant for poor and destitute families for you rich self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people already said what I would have said, so I won’t address it.

BUT, if you live in DC you can get free books sent every month from birth to 5 years old. Through Dolly Parton’s foundation. It’s an amazing amount of books. So do that, OP, if it’s an option. It’s through DCPL.

If OP is a person who has $200 to spend on baby books, she should not be taking advantage of Dolly Parton's charity.

It would be akin to parking is the handicap space because you are borrowing grandpa's car today.

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Spending $200. on books for a child is crazy. Who does something like that? Better apologize, he’s right and your wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a fan of separate accounts. I think it makes it harder for the couple to keep track of the big financial picture and manage that. Add hormones and soon, a third member of the family, and suddenly you're arguing over $5 - why make it so hard for yourself?

+1. Don’t have kids with a man who won’t share his bank account with you.

I am a fan of separate accounts, in my relationship. Just because it doesn’t works for you doesn’t mean it does not work for others. Sounds like you lack communication in your relationships. We have had separate accounts and never fought about money. We communicate and are on the same page financially.