How to know it’s time to give ILs a second chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t even sound like they did anything that terrible. But you do you, OP, and win your little war at the expense of your children.

x1000

She visited ILs with kids regularly, but w/o DH present, later ILs empatically denied that these visits happened and accused her of withholding access to kids. It was in the other thread.

The PP must be from the PIA MILs tribe.

[Anonymous]

I also would be very curious to read your first thread to get the entire picture, but if you have a system that works for you and your family, don’t mess with it. A month isn’t that long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t even sound like they did anything that terrible. But you do you, OP, and win your little war at the expense of your children.

^^^
This. The self absorbed mommies on this site are pretty sad. They will pay the price as their children grow up and become parents themselves. Children learn what they live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t even sound like they did anything that terrible. But you do you, OP, and win your little war at the expense of your children.

x1000

She visited ILs with kids regularly, but w/o DH present, later ILs empatically denied that these visits happened and accused her of withholding access to kids. It was in the other thread.

The PP must be from the PIA MILs tribe.

The thing is no one is entirely correct in their story! We are only getting one side. On the other hand, what if the in-laws are having memory problems? Why wouldn't you speak up and say " hey Larry and Donna don't you remember we visited on such and such a day and went apple picking?" I can't believe you don't remember! Here are the pictures!

[Anonymous]

Grandparents offer a kind of love that can't be replicated by anything or anyone else. Put up with it now and you'll count your blessings when your teens are toying with face tattoos, or whatever is cool for their generation. Gran can often talk them off the ledge when they are driving you out of your mind, but only if they know and love her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents offer a kind of love that can't be replicated by anything or anyone else. Put up with it now and you'll count your blessings when your teens are toying with face tattoos, or whatever is cool for their generation. Gran can often talk them off the ledge when they are driving you out of your mind, but only if they know and love her.

np. Not when Gran is more interested in being the favorite relative which means siding with kid no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents offer a kind of love that can't be replicated by anything or anyone else. Put up with it now and you'll count your blessings when your teens are toying with face tattoos, or whatever is cool for their generation. Gran can often talk them off the ledge when they are driving you out of your mind, but only if they know and love her.

Have you read anything on this thread? Grandparents have regular time with kids and DH, you can unclench now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t even sound like they did anything that terrible. But you do you, OP, and win your little war at the expense of your children.

^^^
This. The self absorbed mommies on this site are pretty sad. They will pay the price as their children grow up and become parents themselves. Children learn what they live.

I completely agree - which is why I'm teaching my kids that just because you share DNA with someone doesn't mean they can treat you with less respect and kindness than you would tolerate in friends.