How to stop fantasizing about coworker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're serious about wanting to stop this dynamic - tell your husband. In a mature way. If it bothers him, keep talking about it, go to therapy, etc. Once the secrecy of it is gone, the spark will fizzle.

Horrible advice. Do not do this.

Disagree. It will make ithe crush difficult or impossible for her to act on without getting caught. She is tying herself to the mast. I’d only recommend if she felt like she was weakening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm married (happily) but I have a new coworker who I am majorly attracted to. When he is close to me it's like electricity running through my body. I would never ever cheat, but am having fantasies that are quite distracting. I've been attracted to other men besides DH and it's faded over time, but the attraction has never been as strong as it is with this new coworker. Anyone else dealt with attraction like this? Any tips on how to stop fantasizing about him/ help the attraction pass so I can be less distracted? To reiterate - I love DH very much (married 7 years, no kids but trying), I still find him attractive, and I would never cheat.

Imagine him doing something really gross ...like pooping in his pants. ( in front of everyone!)