Have you told your spouse about your sexual assault?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pls explain why you wouldn’t tell your spouse? It’s a pretty big thing that affected you? Why be ashamed?

This is so offensive. For some people it is very painful to talk about. Go away.

Surely it would come up at some point In a twenty year marriage.

NP. Jeez. You know nothing of trauma, apparently.

Actually I do. I told DH early on. I can’t imagine not telling him about something that affected me so much.

That's because you have a limited imagination.

How so?

If you can't imagine that some victims would act differently than you, you have a limited imagination.

[Anonymous]

Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

I feel bad for the women who don’t feel secure enough with their spouse to tell.

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Anonymous wrote:Pls explain why you wouldn’t tell your spouse? It’s a pretty big thing that affected you? Why be ashamed?

This is so offensive. For some people it is very painful to talk about. Go away.

Surely it would come up at some point In a twenty year marriage.

NP. Jeez. You know nothing of trauma, apparently.

Actually I do. I told DH early on. I can’t imagine not telling him about something that affected me so much.

That's because you have a limited imagination.

How so?

If you can't imagine that some victims would act differently than you, you have a limited imagination.

Yet you fail to communicate why you wouldn’t tell.
You seem to have issues in general with communication.

[Anonymous]

17:48 gave a good example.

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Anonymous wrote:Pls explain why you wouldn’t tell your spouse? It’s a pretty big thing that affected you? Why be ashamed?

This is so offensive. For some people it is very painful to talk about. Go away.

Surely it would come up at some point In a twenty year marriage.

NP. Jeez. You know nothing of trauma, apparently.

Actually I do. I told DH early on. I can’t imagine not telling him about something that affected me so much.

That's because you have a limited imagination.

Cause it sucks, is painful and I don’t like to think about it. Not so healthy, but that’s what got me through.

[Anonymous]

Not really because it was one of those things where other people would think it was my fault. I don't think I was "abused" anyway but more like taken advantage of, at least that is how I think of it. And I was an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

I feel bad for the women who don’t feel secure enough with their spouse to tell.

I feel bad for women who aren’t secure enough with themselves to avoid catty comments directed at rape victims.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

I feel bad for the women who don’t feel secure enough with their spouse to tell.

I feel bad for women who aren’t secure enough with themselves to avoid catty comments directed at rape victims.

Plus a million. What is wrong with some people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

I feel bad for the women who don’t feel secure enough with their spouse to tell.

I feel bad for women who aren’t secure enough with themselves to avoid catty comments directed at rape victims.

Plus a million. What is wrong with some people.

Not really, I can't see why you cat share such a HUGE thing with your spouse. I told DH. Otherwise, I would feel like a fraud.

[Anonymous]

Ok, what I don't get is if it affected you so much, why won't you tell the person who should be the closet to you.

Otherwise, maybe it's not the big deal you made it.

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Anonymous wrote:Not really because it was one of those things where other people would think it was my fault. I don't think I was "abused" anyway but more like taken advantage of, at least that is how I think of it. And I was an adult.

Then you weren't sexually assaulted.

[Anonymous]

Yes because my rape resulted in a pregnancy that ended in miscarriage when I was in my second trimester (I was in denial about this pregnancy and had considered killing myself).

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Anonymous wrote:Pls explain why you wouldn’t tell your spouse? It’s a pretty big thing that affected you? Why be ashamed?

This is so offensive. For some people it is very painful to talk about. Go away.

Surely it would come up at some point In a twenty year marriage.

NP. Jeez. You know nothing of trauma, apparently.

Actually I do. I told DH early on. I can’t imagine not telling him about something that affected me so much.

That's because you have a limited imagination.

How so?

If you can't imagine that some victims would act differently than you, you have a limited imagination.

Yet you fail to communicate why you wouldn’t tell.
You seem to have issues in general with communication.

No, you are just too dense to waste my time on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I did. He is amazing and supportive.

I feel bad for the women who don’t feel secure enough with their spouse to tell.

I feel bad for women who aren’t secure enough with themselves to avoid catty comments directed at rape victims.

Plus a million. What is wrong with some people.

I think the person posting here with no understanding of trauma is likely seriously messed up.