How to deal with husband’s rage events?

[Anonymous]

OP, how are things going? I hope you and your kids have a nice Halloween. Stay safe.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have been married 6 years and it is a good marriage except he loses his temper about crazy little things and just flies off in a rage. He will not talk rationally to me at least until the next day and sometimes longer. He hasn't hurt me although he pushes me so he could say that he "had" to do something to protect himself. He was married once for 33 years and she left him. I am 13 years younger and he treated me like a queen at the beginning. Seems like since I accepted the diamond, things have changed. It really makes me sad that such a good relationship can go so wrong. Once again, most of the time we get along great but weird little things set him off. i.e. going fishing the other day and I didn't know how to set the GPS right and there were no instructions. I've been yelled at over this one more than once. Tonite was our anniversary and he didn't like the way I was cooking the lobster. I got a little defensive and he totally went off on me. It makes me feel just sick! I'm 53 and he's 66. We have a good marriage except for these rages. Wish I could figure things out...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave. I was in this situation and it escalated to him picking me up and throwing me into a chair and then a wall. Please call 1?800?799?SAFE .

I agree with this poster. Stop making excuses for him. You need to protect yourself and your young children. You also need to talk to a lawyer. If I were you, there is NO WAY would I want this monster having any kind of custody of my children.

If you live in Arlington you should call Doorways for Women and Families. My husband is on the board of directors. It is an amazing organization and they will help you.

[Anonymous]

OP: get you head out of the sand. This is verbal and emotional abuse and very shortly it is going to be physical abuse. Get the hell out now or call the police and have him put out and don't let him back in until he has had indepth counselling.

There is nothing wrong with you. You do not deserve this treatment. Call the police the next time.