Bully parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

First nobody is dragging you in. What is the process of quitting? Just go away. You are here if your own free will because you love being nasty. My guess is nobody wants to play with your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

Truth.

If I can identify your family, I'll be sure not to associate with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

NP. Good lord. Consider maturing emotionally to a point where you can appreciate the fact that other people, mothers and teens alike, don’t owe you or your ostracized teenager anything, including “play dates.” I promise you you’ll be a lot happier and won’t be wishing karmic disaster on other families and kids you think wronged you and yours.

[Anonymous]

Great thread for a rainy day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

NP. Good lord. Consider maturing emotionally to a point where you can appreciate the fact that other people, mothers and teens alike, don’t owe you or your ostracized teenager anything, including “play dates.” I promise you you’ll be a lot happier and won’t be wishing karmic disaster on other families and kids you think wronged you and yours.

+1

PP who feels "owed" - what are you doing to help your child, besides harassing other parents? That could not possibly end well. Why don't you look at your own circumstance, and try to change it on your own, for your own family, without involving outsiders?

[Anonymous]

My response to your thread title - My parents never bullied me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

Nice way to blame a victim. Did you sign a letter in support of Judge Kavanaugh, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

Truth.

If I can identify your family, I'll be sure not to associate with you.

Wow. Actually, some schools are mandating "anti bullying" talks for the parents, which is fine - but the schools should also be teaching parents how to make the effort for your child, in your child's interest, to fit in with another group. The schools should also be talking to the students (who presumably do the bullying, in most cases - though you would be shocked what I have seen parents do!) about anti-bullying. But yes, I agree with what PP is trying to say - the parents need to help their children, not try to pile it on other parents. We all know who does that.

PP, if you are talking about "not associating" or whatever, maybe your are the bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My response to your thread title - My parents never bullied me.

In response to the thread topic - some parents resort to bullying other parents and children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

First nobody is dragging you in. What is the process of quitting? Just go away. You are here if your own free will because you love being nasty. My guess is nobody wants to play with your kid.

+1

Such hatred and low tolerance. No wonder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

You sound like a neurotic loser with an empty, eggshell life.
My family made their money by being their best selves in terms of continuing their education at every chance, working hard and giving back to the community. We all have a rich pool of friends of all different "social staus," each one of whom contributes deep connected joy and support to our lives.
I feel very sorry for you.

+1

OP here. I agree with second PP here. I feel sorry for the troll who wrote the first post. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

Wow, this has to win some kind of DCUM price for social climbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

Wow, this has to win some kind of DCUM price for social climbing.

+1

OP here. It has got to be a troll - someone pretending to be someone else. It is fairly obvious, and not very smart. I thought to report it, but I think that the person who has a beef with the original post should be called out, so I am letting it stand. Probably the same PP who was talking about "popular kids become hookers". Actually, I would love to see a cite on that, but since no doubt there is not one that exists, I would like to encourage PP to keep talking. It is more priceless than PP knows My guess is that PP has.....issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

One thing that strikes me as really sad about this is your utter lack of faith in your kids' abilities to make friends on their own without you having to buy those friends for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

One thing that strikes me as really sad about this is your utter lack of faith in your kids' abilities to make friends on their own without you having to buy those friends for them.

OP here. Lunch hour. Again, this PP ^^^^ is a troll, ie: pretending to be someone else. Please ignore. Thanks.