Bully parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Some of the parents on here are really cruel. You’re supposed to be part of a community and if there’s a kid who is not having the best time making friends you can roll them into some kind of social engagement. My family does it all the time and it works out just fine. No I don’t force my kid to hang out with a kid one on one but I’ll invite a few others to round out the group.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Op What grade are we talking? 9th, 10th, 11th? Also I find it interesting the OP never said The children in question were girls. OP are they girls or boys? I find it interesting people just assume the child was a she. Also OP maybe there are some bad kids in the grade and she wants to steer clear of them and assumes that your kid is not one of them. You should be flattered.

"Flattered" why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Some of the parents on here are really cruel. You’re supposed to be part of a community and if there’s a kid who is not having the best time making friends you can roll them into some kind of social engagement. My family does it all the time and it works out just fine. No I don’t force my kid to hang out with a kid one on one but I’ll invite a few others to round out the group.

Don't you choose your own community? Or do you force yourself into whatever group you want to? Talk about entitled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Some of the parents on here are really cruel. You’re supposed to be part of a community and if there’s a kid who is not having the best time making friends you can roll them into some kind of social engagement. My family does it all the time and it works out just fine. No I don’t force my kid to hang out with a kid one on one but I’ll invite a few others to round out the group.

Don't you choose your own community? Or do you force yourself into whatever group you want to? Talk about entitled.

I choose the school but not who is admitted to the school. Obviously I don’t choose who is admitted to our school but I respect the fact that we are part of a community and try to treat other children as I would hope people would treat our children. Sounds like you don’t do the same?

[Anonymous]

I have actually never heard of this for kids beyond say early elementary where parents are highly involved and even sometimes at play activities. OP, what age and give more info. This just seems so foreign to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Some of the parents on here are really cruel. You’re supposed to be part of a community and if there’s a kid who is not having the best time making friends you can roll them into some kind of social engagement. My family does it all the time and it works out just fine. No I don’t force my kid to hang out with a kid one on one but I’ll invite a few others to round out the group.

Don't you choose your own community? Or do you force yourself into whatever group you want to? Talk about entitled.

I choose the school but not who is admitted to the school. Obviously I don’t choose who is admitted to our school but I respect the fact that we are part of a community and try to treat other children as I would hope people would treat our children. Sounds like you don’t do the same?

So, you invite the entire 10th grade to your DC's birthday party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I have actually never heard of this for kids beyond say early elementary where parents are highly involved and even sometimes at play activities. OP, what age and give more info. This just seems so foreign to me.

+1

Most normal parents do not get involved after say, 6th grade or so.

[Anonymous]

Op Are we talking ninth grade or seniors? That makes a difference. Also are you talking about boys or girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Op wow this is a loaded post. How is this bullying? Maybe what she is telling you is true. What age are we talking about? A mom that seems to always have information told me some things and now honestly I’m very grateful she did because what she warned me about was actually true and those kids ended up getting into some major trouble and if I had let my child go he would have also gotten into trouble. I actually appreciate that she gave me a heads up because being new to this situation we would not have known otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Some parents do try to sway other parents (see 17:07 PP); sometimes the information is false. In that case, I suppose there are charges that could be brought against the parents who instigate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Some of the parents on here are really cruel. You’re supposed to be part of a community and if there’s a kid who is not having the best time making friends you can roll them into some kind of social engagement. My family does it all the time and it works out just fine. No I don’t force my kid to hang out with a kid one on one but I’ll invite a few others to round out the group.

Don't you choose your own community? Or do you force yourself into whatever group you want to? Talk about entitled.

I choose the school but not who is admitted to the school. Obviously I don’t choose who is admitted to our school but I respect the fact that we are part of a community and try to treat other children as I would hope people would treat our children. Sounds like you don’t do the same?

So, you invite the entire 10th grade to your DC's birthday party?

:crickets:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Girls? What grade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

Girls? What grade?

High school ages, so about age 14-16.

[Anonymous]

I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl.

My kids understand that they need to present their best selves, just like they'll do in their careers. They do that by dressing stylishly, by playing travel, by having cool travel experiences, by hanging out with other cool kids, and by making sure they're not letting other kids drag them down.

DH and I help them by purchasing them the latest clothes, by getting them training so that they start on their travel teams, by taking them on cool trips where they can fill up their Instas, and by opening our pool in the summers for kids to hang out (with a stocked fridge of sodas and snacks).

We're judged according to those with whom we associate. In my DH's career he knew it was critical to get face time with the partners. I know that it's important for us to associate with prominent local people so that teachers know they need to be careful and treat our kids right. My kids understand that while the movies show it's nice to hang out with Waldo, in practice all that does is exile them to the losers' table.

The more we talk about "anti-bullying" and stuff like that, we lose sight of what we need to teach our kids for them to succeed. At some point if kids don't want to be bullied, they need to stop doing things that get them bullied.

You sound like a neurotic loser with an empty, eggshell life.
My family made their money by being their best selves in terms of continuing their education at every chance, working hard and giving back to the community. We all have a rich pool of friends of all different "social staus," each one of whom contributes deep connected joy and support to our lives.
I feel very sorry for you.