Bully parents

[Anonymous]

Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

What? Power? Drug addicts? Hookers? Play dates? Just a little bit of deflection in this response?

[Anonymous]

No one can force you. Slow fade from this person. Plenty of kids we’ve distanced from because they weren’t particularly nice or in HS are vaping etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

That response seemed like a bit of an escalation...

[Anonymous]

I generally don't view them as bullies, but I know what you mean. There have been a few moms over the years who have pressed hard for their kids to hang out with mine. In my experience, the pushy mom sees their child being excluded. Sometimes kids are being mean and excluding the pushy mom's kid. Sometimes the pushy mom's kid is a jackass and kids don't want to hang out with someone who is a jackass. Pushy moms do not always see their kids' jackassery clearly.

I have a teenager so I may handle pushy moms differently than a mom of elementary school age kids. My go to is to tell a pushy mom that my kid is a teen who makes her own social plans that are subject to our approval. I let her know that I will pass along the message that pushy mom's kid would be interested in hanging out, but make no promises that this will take place.

[Anonymous]

How is that bullying?

[Anonymous]

I'd be honest and say I stopped making play date arrangements for my child a decade ago. It is up to the teens to make their own social plans.

[Anonymous]

As teens? By MS my kids were setting up their own hang-outs, I wouldn't interfere.... Occasionally a friends parents will call me and ask if we can do something with their child because they are heading out late or are going out of town. But a regular hang-out? No way I'd get involved! If a parent called under regular circumstances, I'd say ease have your Larlo call my Larlo and see if/when he's available.

[Anonymous]

so much weirdness in this post.

and such an angry poster when most likely empathy is more appropriate.

[Anonymous]

A friend if mine’s teen had a falling out with a friend. Teen 1 was really mad at Teen 2. Teen 2’s mom called saying Teen 2 was being ostracized by the group. Teen 1’s mom talked to Teen 1 and assured the mom Teen 1 has not asked or encouraged the group to distance from Teen 2 but that Teen 1 was very upset with Teen 2, and this is the kind of thing that teenagers need to learn how to work out, or not, on their own.

[Anonymous]

Why do you pick up the phone, OP? Nobody can suck you into drama if you don't pick up that phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know any parents who try to force their children to hang out with their kid? Specifically, by calling all the other parents and saying what they have to say (no matter how false or ridiculous) in order to make it happen? There is one parent who is fond of this practice, and I (one of the moms she calls, I think because she thinks we are "similar") am dreading what she has up her sleeve this year. She is controlling and well....a little crazy.....If I was smart, I wouldn't answer the phone at all when she calls! Has anyone come across this for high school aged (!!!) DCs? I feel like by that age, DC should be making their own social decisions, and she should not be forcing anything on anyone, her DC would be better off. Yes, this is as silly as it sounds. Anyone BTDT (a mom tried to rope you into drama and you successfully told her no thank you?)

I'm in the process of quitting DCUM, but you are just the kind of asshole that keeps dragging me back in. A poor mother whose child has probably been ostracized from play dates by a bitch like you has called asking you to give her kid another chance and you can demonstrate no mercy.

Just know life is long and karma really is a bitch.

Our cities streets are strewn with drug addicts and hookers who were once popular eight year olds. Enjoy your power today, because I promise you it will not last.

That response seemed like a bit of an escalation...

+1

Slightly?!

Just the type of mom who has drama in her house, and wants to inflict it on some other family. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be honest and say I stopped making play date arrangements for my child a decade ago. It is up to the teens to make their own social plans.

This is all that needed or needs to be said, in a nutshell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be honest and say I stopped making play date arrangements for my child a decade ago. It is up to the teens to make their own social plans.

+1

Moms that interfere at that age are just setting their DC up for disaster. Why would I force my kid to hang out with people who clearly do not like him or her? WTH kind of parent does that? If I have issues at home, I deal with them, but not by dragging another family into it. Geesus.