Is this today’s dating pattern?

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

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Anonymous wrote:It's even more blatant with the 50's women. When I was newly single at 56 after 25 years of marriage I was stunned by the first or second date attitude. I really thought I would be the one working real hard to finally get some affection but I was so wrong. After a few months I was so happy to meet a woman who I had to really woo!

Women in their 50s are not looking for the father of their children or marriage. BTDT. So why waste time? They probably wanted to see if you needed help, Viagra, and how well you performed before getting serious.

Thankfully I didn't need help but after a couple of experiences I knew I needed to keep protection very close at hand even on a first date.

So, they are forcing you into sex, or you are just saying yes because why not? Fast women don't seem like your preference, OP.

If it were me, it would be a turn off, because it would say to me that the woman is not picky/particular/would sleep would with anything with a penis/easy/cheap. Those are just the first things that come to mind. I'm not a prude, but I don't believe in throwing yourself at someone, either. And yes, after 25 years of marriage, I would think STDs. Isn't that why there is often talk of rampant STDs at 55 and over places - people sowing their wild oats. Sounds gross and unappealing to me, IMHO.

I hate to break it to you, but you are pretty damn prudish.

Nope. Just don't subscribe to sleeping together on first date, like you do. Which I find gross. Most of the men I know agree.

I bet most of the men you know act like they agree with everything you think.

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

That's the way I read it.

As a man, I want to be Mr. Big, and the rebound guy. Tons of meaningless sex from women who expect nothing more from me. Sounds ideal

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

That's the way I read it.

As a man, I want to be Mr. Big, and the rebound guy. Tons of meaningless sex from women who expect nothing more from me. Sounds ideal

I think that if I had found DCUM when I was a single man I might have chosen a different path...

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I dunno OP. I'm more of a relationship guy so I haven't slept with the 30+ people most of DCUM seems to experience. Yet with my first wife and other person that I had my longest relationship with, we had sex on the first date. Stuff like that, or a woman's sexual history is not important to me, it's the individual that counts and reasons for wanting to get involved.

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if a guy really likes you, he will wait.

Why in Christ’s name would we wait? If you want to date, do the dating stuff.

Just an observation, and not at all being religious, but it's ironic that you asked why in "Christ name" you should wait. Jesus is the one who set the rule to wait, so that's why in Christ name you should wait!


Ok, I'm done now...carry on with your day

[Anonymous]

I'm 36 and divorced. My experience has been the same as OP. We text once or twice, exchange numbers, go out for drinks, and have a real date a day or two later. The second date usually ends with sex, but I've had some offers on the first date.

I always use condoms, but I've had women ask me not to use them. The HIV rate in this area is too high, so I immediately end the date and assume the worst.

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if a guy really likes you, he will wait.

Why in Christ’s name would we wait? If you want to date, do the dating stuff.

Just an observation, and not at all being religious, but it's ironic that you asked why in "Christ name" you should wait. Jesus is the one who set the rule to wait, so that's why in Christ name you should wait!


Ok, I'm done now...carry on with your day

Generally speaking, mistranslated myths of an ancient nomadic people are a terrible guide to modern living. However, treating people with respect is a good thing, so lying about exclusivity is certainly bad. But I certainly wouldn’t propose marriage to a woman who has demonstrated no interest in having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I met on dating sites had sex with me on the first date. ALL the others did the coffee thing first, then planned sex on the next date, or no next date. Yes, it's the norm now. My biggest surprise is how few, like only two, insisted on condoms.

This is insane. STD rates in DC are through the roof, including HIV.

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

That's the way I read it.

As a man, I want to be Mr. Big, and the rebound guy. Tons of meaningless sex from women who expect nothing more from me. Sounds ideal

And real men want something substantive. To each his own!

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Personally I need to connect with someone before I can enjoy having sex with them. I’ve had a few FWB’s since my divorce (I have no interest in a relationship at this point) but the sex has just been mediocre. It’s sex though but more like scratching an itch as opposed to wild passionate craziness. So I’m a horrible candidate for a ONS.

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

She did remarry and is having sex.

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this is not the dating pattern of me or any of my single friends. we wait. we've been burned enough to know to be careful.

maybe divorced women are different? i dunno.

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Anonymous wrote:After my sister got divorced following a loveless marriage her self esteem was incredibly low and she'd hop in bed with almost every guy she met. But she recovered.

She got remarried and stopped having sex?

That's the way I read it.

As a man, I want to be Mr. Big, and the rebound guy. Tons of meaningless sex from women who expect nothing more from me. Sounds ideal

And real men want something substantive. To each his own!

What does that even mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is not the dating pattern of me or any of my single friends. we wait. we've been burned enough to know to be careful.

maybe divorced women are different? i dunno.

So having sex equals being burned?