Is this today’s dating pattern?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is not the dating pattern of me or any of my single friends. we wait. we've been burned enough to know to be careful.

maybe divorced women are different? i dunno.

So having sex equals being burned?

Having sex without protection means getting burned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:this is not the dating pattern of me or any of my single friends. we wait. we've been burned enough to know to be careful.

maybe divorced women are different? i dunno.

So having sex equals being burned?

Having sex without protection means getting burned.

What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

[Anonymous]

Wow! I can't even kiss someone after a couple of dates. And it has nothing to do with being a prude. I need a strong connection to enjoy intimacy. Otherwise someone elses' saliva just taste disgusting in my mouth.

[Anonymous]

I'm at the very low end of your age range and have used dating apps on and off the last couple of years. I would never consider having sex with a man from an app on a first or second date. Not super into the idea of getting naked with someone that in all likely hood is talking to 10 other women at the same time. Gross.

Meeting men on dating apps has really helped me to get to a place that I don't really trust things that dates tell me, especially on a first or second date. I'm sure this applies the other way around too, but I only date men, so I can only speak to this. I just don't want to sleep with someone I don't trust or that might tell me we'll go out again and never call. So I hold out for a bit until I feel good that things may be headed in a direction of seeing each other on the regular.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's even more blatant with the 50's women. When I was newly single at 56 after 25 years of marriage I was stunned by the first or second date attitude. I really thought I would be the one working real hard to finally get some affection but I was so wrong. After a few months I was so happy to meet a woman who I had to really woo!

Women in their 50s are not looking for the father of their children or marriage. BTDT. So why waste time? They probably wanted to see if you needed help, Viagra, and how well you performed before getting serious.

Thankfully I didn't need help but after a couple of experiences I knew I needed to keep protection very close at hand even on a first date.

So, they are forcing you into sex, or you are just saying yes because why not? Fast women don't seem like your preference, OP.

If it were me, it would be a turn off, because it would say to me that the woman is not picky/particular/would sleep would with anything with a penis/easy/cheap. Those are just the first things that come to mind. I'm not a prude, but I don't believe in throwing yourself at someone, either. And yes, after 25 years of marriage, I would think STDs. Isn't that why there is often talk of rampant STDs at 55 and over places - people sowing their wild oats. Sounds gross and unappealing to me, IMHO.

I hate to break it to you, but you are pretty damn prudish.

Nope. Just don't subscribe to sleeping together on first date, like you do. Which I find gross. Most of the men I know agree.

I don’t sleep with men on the first date either, but you are still a prude. Reread what you wrote, your attitude is prudish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

Guy here. I'm married so this is projecting or hypothetical, but I'd prefer not using condoms. I got "fixed" after my wife and I had our second kid and I've been happily enjoying condom-free sex for years. I'm not sure I could ever go back.

On the flip side, I've never been the fast moving type and have no demands for sex on the first or second date. Wasn't like that in college, don't feel that way now. Maybe I'd fail at online dating, but I'd like to think I'd prefer to first find a woman who I was comfortable with and who okay with an exclusive arrangement, get STD tests, then have all the fun we wanted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

Guy here. I'm married so this is projecting or hypothetical, but I'd prefer not using condoms. I got "fixed" after my wife and I had our second kid and I've been happily enjoying condom-free sex for years. I'm not sure I could ever go back.

On the flip side, I've never been the fast moving type and have no demands for sex on the first or second date. Wasn't like that in college, don't feel that way now. Maybe I'd fail at online dating, but I'd like to think I'd prefer to first find a woman who I was comfortable with and who okay with an exclusive arrangement, get STD tests, then have all the fun we wanted.

And you would be cool with an unplanned pregnancy, then?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

Guy here. I'm married so this is projecting or hypothetical, but I'd prefer not using condoms. I got "fixed" after my wife and I had our second kid and I've been happily enjoying condom-free sex for years. I'm not sure I could ever go back.

On the flip side, I've never been the fast moving type and have no demands for sex on the first or second date. Wasn't like that in college, don't feel that way now. Maybe I'd fail at online dating, but I'd like to think I'd prefer to first find a woman who I was comfortable with and who okay with an exclusive arrangement, get STD tests, then have all the fun we wanted.

And you would be cool with an unplanned pregnancy, then?

Apparently you missed the part where he said he was snipped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

Guy here. I'm married so this is projecting or hypothetical, but I'd prefer not using condoms. I got "fixed" after my wife and I had our second kid and I've been happily enjoying condom-free sex for years. I'm not sure I could ever go back.

On the flip side, I've never been the fast moving type and have no demands for sex on the first or second date. Wasn't like that in college, don't feel that way now. Maybe I'd fail at online dating, but I'd like to think I'd prefer to first find a woman who I was comfortable with and who okay with an exclusive arrangement, get STD tests, then have all the fun we wanted.

And you would be cool with an unplanned pregnancy, then?

Apparently you missed the part where he said he was snipped.

Yeah, you missed that part. My wife got pregnant very easily each time. If I hadn't been snipped, we'd probably be competing with those crazy Duggar folks by this point. I mean, it's all hypothetical, I love my wife and don't have any desire to explore online dating. I just think I'd prefer to approach it in such a way where condoms didn't need to be on the table. I'd prefer to take STD tests and maintain exclusive relationships, even if it meant waiting a bit.

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of dummy has sex without protection!?! Old people in retirement communities it sounds like. I’ve had 100+ partners when I was younger and never had an STD. Regularly got a STD testing and blood work every few months.

Guy here. I'm married so this is projecting or hypothetical, but I'd prefer not using condoms. I got "fixed" after my wife and I had our second kid and I've been happily enjoying condom-free sex for years. I'm not sure I could ever go back.

On the flip side, I've never been the fast moving type and have no demands for sex on the first or second date. Wasn't like that in college, don't feel that way now. Maybe I'd fail at online dating, but I'd like to think I'd prefer to first find a woman who I was comfortable with and who okay with an exclusive arrangement, get STD tests, then have all the fun we wanted.

And you would be cool with an unplanned pregnancy, then?

Apparently you missed the part where he said he was snipped.

See, all the good ones are married. Sigh!


Yeah, you missed that part. My wife got pregnant very easily each time. If I hadn't been snipped, we'd probably be competing with those crazy Duggar folks by this point. I mean, it's all hypothetical, I love my wife and don't have any desire to explore online dating. I just think I'd prefer to approach it in such a way where condoms didn't need to be on the table. I'd prefer to take STD tests and maintain exclusive relationships, even if it meant waiting a bit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I met on dating sites had sex with me on the first date. ALL the others did the coffee thing first, then planned sex on the next date, or no next date. Yes, it's the norm now. My biggest surprise is how few, like only two, insisted on condoms.

This is insane. STD rates in DC are through the roof, including HIV.

Yet somehow, I've managed to never catch anything while enjoying condom free sex. Woman sure love that I have a vasectomy.

How do I do that? By knowing how that demographic for the STD rates in DC Baltimore area breaks down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I met on dating sites had sex with me on the first date. ALL the others did the coffee thing first, then planned sex on the next date, or no next date. Yes, it's the norm now. My biggest surprise is how few, like only two, insisted on condoms.

This is insane. STD rates in DC are through the roof, including HIV.

Yet somehow, I've managed to never catch anything while enjoying condom free sex. Woman sure love that I have a vasectomy.

How do I do that? By knowing how that demographic for the STD rates in DC Baltimore area breaks down.

How does it breakdown? Where do you get your information ??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I met on dating sites had sex with me on the first date. ALL the others did the coffee thing first, then planned sex on the next date, or no next date. Yes, it's the norm now. My biggest surprise is how few, like only two, insisted on condoms.

This is insane. STD rates in DC are through the roof, including HIV.

Yet somehow, I've managed to never catch anything while enjoying condom free sex. Woman sure love that I have a vasectomy.

How do I do that? By knowing how that demographic for the STD rates in DC Baltimore area breaks down.

Stop being ridiculous. Does it occur to you that your partners are just as eager to sleep with other people? Do you know who these peope are and who they slept with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm at the very low end of your age range and have used dating apps on and off the last couple of years. I would never consider having sex with a man from an app on a first or second date. Not super into the idea of getting naked with someone that in all likely hood is talking to 10 other women at the same time. Gross.

Meeting men on dating apps has really helped me to get to a place that I don't really trust things that dates tell me, especially on a first or second date. I'm sure this applies the other way around too, but I only date men, so I can only speak to this. I just don't want to sleep with someone I don't trust or that might tell me we'll go out again and never call. So I hold out for a bit until I feel good that things may be headed in a direction of seeing each other on the regular.

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[Anonymous]

Anyone who has unprotected sex with someone they barely know is reckless. "But I get tested regularly". But that is after the fact! I work, travel, and do other things. Why in the world would I take unnecessary risks?