Does your husband follow random Instagram Models/Women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since we are on the subject, can someone recommend some sites. Thx

Go on Instagram and search tag #beach #fitness etc

Here are some good ones:

https://www.instagram.com/jenafrumes

https://www.instagram.com/belle_lucia/

https://www.instagram.com/anastasiaashley

[Anonymous]

All these women so proud of their husbands who don't follow bikini models! You realize he just goes to their page and still looks. Just because he doesn't follow doesn't mean anything. These dudes know you guys are psycho and will read way too much into it and call them creeps. Maybe they don't follow but they still look. And it's not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband doesn’t have time to follow strangers on social media. How much time are people spending on this? Thousands of follows? Get a hobby.

The sad part is it probably is the hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these women so proud of their husbands who don't follow bikini models! You realize he just goes to their page and still looks. Just because he doesn't follow doesn't mean anything. These dudes know you guys are psycho and will read way too much into it and call them creeps. Maybe they don't follow but they still look. And it's not a big deal.

I don't care about the looking. Models, porn, whatever. It's embarrassing to advertise this to parents, friends, colleagues, etc. I don't think that's psycho, I think that's being aware of your image. I love InstaHoes is not the image a respectable guy should want to project.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, "Instagram model" = hooker...surprised folks don't know that yet.

Some of them, yep. But even for the ones that are, following them on Insta isn't the same as visiting a hooker, unless you think they have intimate contact with hundreds of thousands to millions of people all over the world. It's more like looking at a hooker when you see one. Again: additional contact, DM's, personal requests: sketchy. But just looking at women because you think they're sexy is not a huge deal to most people.

OP's husband lying about not following the accounts (and if she's the follow-up poster, him having "problems with boundaries" in the marriage) is the real issue. Just following model accounts isn't a big deal.

OP here. His IG account is set on private so he must "authorize"them to follow, correct and then follow them back. Some of these women have private pages while other are public. I can see that he is listed as one of their followers. I don't have a big problem with him looking at girls in bikinis (like my VS catalog etc.), but I find this a bit weird. I guess, I'll just leave it alone for now. The problems with boundaries have been a big red flag throughout our marriage. DH thinks that he is just being friendly, but it has gotten him into trouble with other husbands etc. when he started contacting/emailing their wives, girlfriends etc. I don't think that he has bad intentions, but he has an enormous need for admiration, attention etc. I have thought about ending this marriage before because it is bothering me a lot and I feel disrespected and humiliated in front of friends, neighbors etc.. I have asked him to stop before and he will do it for a little while and then start up again. I feel like I'm never good enough. We have children together so I cannot just walk away, but this behavior is slowly killing my love for my husband.

This was me, all of it including lying. In my case my ex husband was also soliciting prostitutes when out of town. Beware of they guy who habitually oversteps boundaries and puts himself and his need for adoration above respecting you. It doesn't matter if what he is doing is ok to the world if it bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these women so proud of their husbands who don't follow bikini models! You realize he just goes to their page and still looks. Just because he doesn't follow doesn't mean anything. These dudes know you guys are psycho and will read way too much into it and call them creeps. Maybe they don't follow but they still look. And it's not a big deal.

My DH doesn't have an Instagram account. I don't know many men over the age of 30 who do. Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a career and children. He has no time for instagram...

This.

The only social media my DH actively uses is linked in. He does look at Twitter, but only follows politics, sports and business in his industry. He would be embarrassed to be on Instagram. His role st his company is pretty public. Following soft core porn publically eould reflects bbn poorly on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, "Instagram model" = hooker...surprised folks don't know that yet.

Some of them, yep. But even for the ones that are, following them on Insta isn't the same as visiting a hooker, unless you think they have intimate contact with hundreds of thousands to millions of people all over the world. It's more like looking at a hooker when you see one. Again: additional contact, DM's, personal requests: sketchy. But just looking at women because you think they're sexy is not a huge deal to most people.

OP's husband lying about not following the accounts (and if she's the follow-up poster, him having "problems with boundaries" in the marriage) is the real issue. Just following model accounts isn't a big deal.

OP here. His IG account is set on private so he must "authorize"them to follow, correct and then follow them back. Some of these women have private pages while other are public. I can see that he is listed as one of their followers. I don't have a big problem with him looking at girls in bikinis (like my VS catalog etc.), but I find this a bit weird. I guess, I'll just leave it alone for now. The problems with boundaries have been a big red flag throughout our marriage. DH thinks that he is just being friendly, but it has gotten him into trouble with other husbands etc. when he started contacting/emailing their wives, girlfriends etc. I don't think that he has bad intentions, but he has an enormous need for admiration, attention etc. I have thought about ending this marriage before because it is bothering me a lot and I feel disrespected and humiliated in front of friends, neighbors etc.. I have asked him to stop before and he will do it for a little while and then start up again. I feel like I'm never good enough. We have children together so I cannot just walk away, but this behavior is slowly killing my love for my husband.

Gross. You are married to a sleaze. Hes not being friendly. He trying to bang your neighbors and their husbands are onto him.

[Anonymous]

We are far too busy for all that. I personally don’t even care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, "Instagram model" = hooker...surprised folks don't know that yet.

Some of them, yep. But even for the ones that are, following them on Insta isn't the same as visiting a hooker, unless you think they have intimate contact with hundreds of thousands to millions of people all over the world. It's more like looking at a hooker when you see one. Again: additional contact, DM's, personal requests: sketchy. But just looking at women because you think they're sexy is not a huge deal to most people.

OP's husband lying about not following the accounts (and if she's the follow-up poster, him having "problems with boundaries" in the marriage) is the real issue. Just following model accounts isn't a big deal.

OP here. His IG account is set on private so he must "authorize"them to follow, correct and then follow them back. Some of these women have private pages while other are public. I can see that he is listed as one of their followers. I don't have a big problem with him looking at girls in bikinis (like my VS catalog etc.), but I find this a bit weird. I guess, I'll just leave it alone for now. The problems with boundaries have been a big red flag throughout our marriage. DH thinks that he is just being friendly, but it has gotten him into trouble with other husbands etc. when he started contacting/emailing their wives, girlfriends etc. I don't think that he has bad intentions, but he has an enormous need for admiration, attention etc. I have thought about ending this marriage before because it is bothering me a lot and I feel disrespected and humiliated in front of friends, neighbors etc.. I have asked him to stop before and he will do it for a little while and then start up again. I feel like I'm never good enough. We have children together so I cannot just walk away, but this behavior is slowly killing my love for my husband.

Uhmmm...it's flatly disrespectful for a DH or DW to give their spouse any reason not to trust them. Infidelity, instagram, innocent intentions aside, it's about respect-- and your DH is disrespecting you repeatedly after you have asked him to stop. Yes, unless you are financially dependent on him, you can just walk away.

[Anonymous]

What grown man is on Instagram or Facebook? Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What grown man is on Instagram or Facebook? Seriously.

Just found out my boyfriend has a secret account. Im not sure how to feel about it. I don’t like to make a big deal of things, but it seems weird somehow.

[Anonymous]

No thank goodness. Middle aged men seeking out pictures of hot young women like that on a regular basis is so tasteless. (I feel totally differently about DH looking at peon once in a while though. In my mind that’s different and no I don’t know why).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these women so proud of their husbands who don't follow bikini models! You realize he just goes to their page and still looks. Just because he doesn't follow doesn't mean anything. These dudes know you guys are psycho and will read way too much into it and call them creeps. Maybe they don't follow but they still look. And it's not a big deal.

Or he has a finsta. Very easy to have a cover profile. It’s not like they authorize identities 🙄

[Anonymous]

Mine follows Barstool Sports which has plenty of female eye candy in the form of "weekly soccer bombshell," "hottest SEC cheerleaders," etc. I don't really care.

Also occasionally can see that he has had the private browser on, and I know what that means. I've violated his privacy probably 3 times max over the past 10 years to make sure that he's not looking at the type of thing that would concern me (wildly kinky things, gay, schoolgirl, etc.). But the porn seems innocuous, so again I let it be.