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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um, "Instagram model" = hooker...surprised folks don't know that yet.[/quote]

Some of them, yep.  But even for the ones that are, following them on Insta isn't the same as visiting a hooker, unless you think they have intimate contact with hundreds of thousands to millions of people all over the world.  It's more like looking at a hooker when you see one.  Again: additional contact, DM's, personal requests: sketchy.  But just looking at women because you think they're sexy is not a huge deal to most people.

OP's husband lying about not following the accounts (and if she's the follow-up poster, him having "problems with boundaries" in the marriage) is the real issue.  Just following model accounts isn't a big deal.[/quote]

OP here.  His IG account is set on private so he must "authorize"them to follow, correct and then follow them back.  Some of these women have private pages while other are public.  I can see that he is listed as one of their followers.  I don't have a big problem with him looking at girls in bikinis (like my VS catalog etc.), but I find this a bit weird.  I guess, I'll just leave it alone for now.  The problems with boundaries have been a big red flag throughout our marriage.  DH thinks that he is just being friendly, but it has gotten him into trouble with other husbands etc. when he started contacting/emailing their wives, girlfriends etc.  I don't think that he has bad intentions, but he has an enormous need for admiration, attention etc.  I have thought about ending this marriage before because it is bothering me a lot and I feel disrespected and humiliated in front of friends, neighbors etc..  I have asked him to stop before and he will do it for a little while and then start up again.  I feel like I'm never good enough.  We have children together so I cannot just walk away, but this behavior is slowly killing my love for my husband.[/quote]

Uhmmm...it's flatly disrespectful for a DH or DW to give their spouse any reason not to trust them. Infidelity, instagram, innocent intentions aside, it's about respect-- and your DH is disrespecting you repeatedly after you have asked him to stop. Yes, unless you are financially dependent on him, you can just walk away. [/quote]

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