My wife is obsessed with our toddler son

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My wife is a sahm. Everyday she will massage our toddler and sing songs for at least 30 minutes before naps and night sleep. She makes him fancy smoothies and lots of fish and vegetables dishes. They go to a parent child program everyday Monday- Friday in the morning for a few hours. She even takes him to baby yoga and they apparently do foot massages for the babies there. Is any of this normal? She seems very happy staying home with him but I am worried he's getting spoiled.

As a mom of grown kids, I think she is obsessed. Of course, we all want our kids to eat well but when I made smoothies for the kids, I also made them for myself and DH. I use to read to my children as it created a routine but my DH also read to them. I did the mommy & me stuff, one day a week and I planned family activities, that included DH. If you feel left out, and she continues obsessing over your son, you will find yourself looking elsewhere (either with another woman or a hobby or with your guy friends or your job). Your son will be the Momma's boy that woman won't want. You need to get more involved. Many marriages dissolve when the kids leave for college because there is no bond between spouses. Don't let your son get in-between your marriage. I think you need to have a talk with your wife, like, I want to take DS to class or spend Daddy & me time.

This is so incredibly off base.

[Anonymous]

I never had children, so take this with a grain of salt, but to me, she sounds like an incredibly warm and loving mom. I think your son is very lucky to start out life being cared for like this. As long as she isn’t neglecting/ignoring your marriage, I think that how she is caring for your baby is lovely.

[Anonymous]

Lucky kid. Lucky mommy. Sounds like this is her calling. Sounds great to me!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is a sahm. Everyday she will massage our toddler and sing songs for at least 30 minutes before naps and night sleep. She makes him fancy smoothies and lots of fish and vegetables dishes. They go to a parent child program everyday Monday- Friday in the morning for a few hours. She even takes him to baby yoga and they apparently do foot massages for the babies there. Is any of this normal? She seems very happy staying home with him but I am worried he's getting spoiled.

As a mom of grown kids, I think she is obsessed. Of course, we all want our kids to eat well but when I made smoothies for the kids, I also made them for myself and DH. I use to read to my children as it created a routine but my DH also read to them. I did the mommy & me stuff, one day a week and I planned family activities, that included DH. If you feel left out, and she continues obsessing over your son, you will find yourself looking elsewhere (either with another woman or a hobby or with your guy friends or your job). Your son will be the Momma's boy that woman won't want. You need to get more involved. Many marriages dissolve when the kids leave for college because there is no bond between spouses. Don't let your son get in-between your marriage. I think you need to have a talk with your wife, like, I want to take DS to class or spend Daddy & me time.

You didn't go to Mommy and me classes on weekday mornings because you were doing things that included DH? Were neither of you working outside the home during the weekday mornings? I'm assuming that a lot of this is happening when OP is at work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The massage stuff is strange and a little obsessive. She's trying to be the "best" mom but she needs to let the kid have a little space. If he's 2, he should be spending more time socializing with other 2s and 3s.

The nightly massages before bedtime (and naps) could lead to an issue/disorder down the road.

He's going to a play group every single day. That's plenty of socialization for a 2 year old.

Not if he's only playing with mom.

But there is nothing in the OP's post that hints at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, you posted this in relationship forum, that should tell you what this is really about.

This.

[Anonymous]

You know, OP, I've always been obsessed with my kids.

It's kind of the whole point.