My wife is obsessed with our toddler son

[Anonymous]

Spoiled with what? Love? Affection?

I really don't understand people. OP - your child is a toddler. There will be plenty of years that your wife won't get to do any of those things because once your son turns 13 he'll hate everyone in the house and will never eat a home cooked meal unless bribed. Let her love on her baby while he's still young. Having warm love affection and attention from your mom should not be questioned.

As for the "need to socialize" folks - he's a toddler FFS. He'll have enough via his classes with mom and eventually pre-K and school. I don't think our kids need more socialization to fix our issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The massage stuff is strange and a little obsessive. She's trying to be the "best" mom but she needs to let the kid have a little space. If he's 2, he should be spending more time socializing with other 2s and 3s.

The nightly massages before bedtime (and naps) could lead to an issue/disorder down the road.

He's going to a play group every single day. That's plenty of socialization for a 2 year old.

Not if he's only playing with mom.

[Anonymous]

Man, the helicopter moms are getting defensive in here. Claws are out.

[Anonymous]

Nobody else assumed this was a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spoiled with what? Love? Affection?

I really don't understand people. OP - your child is a toddler. There will be plenty of years that your wife won't get to do any of those things because once your son turns 13 he'll hate everyone in the house and will never eat a home cooked meal unless bribed. Let her love on her baby while he's still young. Having warm love affection and attention from your mom should not be questioned.

As for the "need to socialize" folks - he's a toddler FFS. He'll have enough via his classes with mom and eventually pre-K and school. I don't think our kids need more socialization to fix our issues.

+100

[Anonymous]

He won't be a toddler forever. Let her enjoy him!

[Anonymous]

"is obsessed with"?

Hm. OP how do YOU feel about your son?

[Anonymous]

Yup, all totally normal. Almost every mom I know has some sort of back-rubbing ritual for their toddlers at bedtime. Programs are great because they wear the kids out enough that they'll nap, plus it's nice to be around other adults. I wouldn't really call smoothies "fancy", smoothies are actually a mom trick to get kids to eat more fruits and veggies, and they are WAY easier than having to prepare a whole meal. As for fish and vegetables spoiling him.....never have I seen a kid throw a tantrum in a grocery store because he wanted mom to buy some salmon and broccoli.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spoiled with what? Love? Affection?

I really don't understand people. OP - your child is a toddler. There will be plenty of years that your wife won't get to do any of those things because once your son turns 13 he'll hate everyone in the house and will never eat a home cooked meal unless bribed. Let her love on her baby while he's still young. Having warm love affection and attention from your mom should not be questioned.

As for the "need to socialize" folks - he's a toddler FFS. He'll have enough via his classes with mom and eventually pre-K and school. I don't think our kids need more socialization to fix our issues.

+100

times 2... He's a boy - he'll outgrow a lot of stuff by the time he's 6. I'm a DH, and kiss up my 3 yo because he still has the juiciest cheeks on the planet, and I can barely muster a goodbye hug out my 8 y.o. Let her enjoy, it goes by way to fast.

[Anonymous]

How would your wife feel if she knew you were complaining to anonymous strangers about her parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spoiled with what? Love? Affection?

I really don't understand people. OP - your child is a toddler. There will be plenty of years that your wife won't get to do any of those things because once your son turns 13 he'll hate everyone in the house and will never eat a home cooked meal unless bribed. Let her love on her baby while he's still young. Having warm love affection and attention from your mom should not be questioned.

As for the "need to socialize" folks - he's a toddler FFS. He'll have enough via his classes with mom and eventually pre-K and school. I don't think our kids need more socialization to fix our issues.

+100

times 2... He's a boy - he'll outgrow a lot of stuff by the time he's 6. I'm a DH, and kiss up my 3 yo because he still has the juiciest cheeks on the planet, and I can barely muster a goodbye hug out my 8 y.o. Let her enjoy, it goes by way to fast.

Exactly THIS. I have two that are separate by A LOT of years. I wish I knew then what I know now. How fast this all goes. My oldest is out of the house, a productive member of society and will be getting married soon. If you all only knew how precious these years are...luckily for me I have a second chance around and I am savoring every kiss and hug and all that goes on with it because I actually do KNOW that it is fleeting.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't use the word spoiled but I'll just hop in on the flip side of this. Our ped said that we should start phasing out rocking baby to sleep otherwise she will have a difficult time falling asleep without the rocking.

The food part seems legit though.

[Anonymous]

I think the daily play date thing is the only thing that sounds weird. I assume your toddler naps, so when does she exercise, grocery shop, tidy the house, etc. if she is out every morning at her “play date.” I get it’s isolating (I did it, but 2-3x a week should be plenty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the daily play date thing is the only thing that sounds weird. I assume your toddler naps, so when does she exercise, grocery shop, tidy the house, etc. if she is out every morning at her “play date.” I get it’s isolating (I did it, but 2-3x a week should be plenty.

Um what? His wife can leave the house when she wants. This is not Saudi Arabia.

[Anonymous]

Take note, Helicopter Moms! You seem obsessed to everyone else...including your husbands.