Parent Weirdness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am trying to figure out if I am being sensitive or if some parents of dc's former teammates are being uber competitive. They aren't being forthcoming about what their dc's are doing in regards to the sport and seem reluctant to share with me information about where they are playing, what extra training they may be doing, etc. To be honest, I am not certain if it is competitiveness or jealousy at this point. Why wouldn't people want to share what they are doing or get weird if I try to get my dc involved too?

I am one of these parents. My reasons:

1 - I found out about options by asking coaches and researching on the Internet. As soon as I would tell other people, I would get requests to send links to sites and then follow up requests for more info. If I could find out the info, they can do so they need to do their own dang research if they are so interested.

2 - Inevitably I would get hit up for "car pool" requests which were basically asking if I could take their kid because they had work, other activities, so on. Guess what? I work as well and figured out how to make time. They can too. So no, I don't want to take your kid all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am trying to figure out if I am being sensitive or if some parents of dc's former teammates are being uber competitive. They aren't being forthcoming about what their dc's are doing in regards to the sport and seem reluctant to share with me information about where they are playing, what extra training they may be doing, etc. To be honest, I am not certain if it is competitiveness or jealousy at this point. Why wouldn't people want to share what they are doing or get weird if I try to get my dc involved too?

I am one of these parents. My reasons:

1 - I found out about options by asking coaches and researching on the Internet. As soon as I would tell other people, I would get requests to send links to sites and then follow up requests for more info. If I could find out the info, they can do so they need to do their own dang research if they are so interested.

2 - Inevitably I would get hit up for "car pool" requests which were basically asking if I could take their kid because they had work, other activities, so on. Guess what? I work as well and figured out how to make time. They can too. So no, I don't want to take your kid all the time.

And sometimes the last thing you want to see at extra training are kids who you already train with.

[Anonymous]

I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

So much I agree with in this thread and it's so friggin long, I would have expected this to peter out after the first couple of responses.

[Anonymous]

The best athletes train by themselves. For those with money, they train with private trainers and coaches. The best athletes don't compare themselves with others. They train to be the best they can be.

For example, I see a couple of HS kids at Langley HS in the evening training two hours on weeknights and 6 hours on weekends. Sometimes I see the father there with them but they are just there to train. I see them on weekends with personal trainers and coaches at a nearby Country Club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

Just... you sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

Just... you sound horrible.

not PP, but why? the reasons aren’t far fetched nor unreasonable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

Just... you sound horrible.

not PP, but why? the reasons aren’t far fetched nor unreasonable

Agree. That person voiced everything I feel.

The whiny bitches complaining people won’t give them inormation are ridiculous. Go out and find it yourself. I am not here to do your work for you. If you are too dumb to figure it out, so be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I no longer say anything because no good deed goes unpunished around here. Another parent asked about a trainer, then was disappointed and seemed to blame me for wasting her money. Another parent brought a tag along kid to the training who was awful and annoying and brought down the level of the group. Another parent who overheard conversation went and told the coach I thought the team training was not good enough and therefore was a pain in the ass parent.
Additionally, I already spend way too much time around the same group of parents. It is nice to meet new parents.

Just... you sound horrible.

not PP, but why? the reasons aren’t far fetched nor unreasonable

Agree this all sounds reasonable and all too familiar. Nothing horrible about it.

[Anonymous]

I have done this.
It was because the child was negative and my child wanted to get away from them and not be around them. Why would I tell you what my kid is doing, when my kid is trying to get away from your kid in the first place?
Sorry, but that’s the reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have done this.
It was because the child was negative and my child wanted to get away from them and not be around them. Why would I tell you what my kid is doing, when my kid is trying to get away from your kid in the first place?
Sorry, but that’s the reason.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have done this.
It was because the child was negative and my child wanted to get away from them and not be around them. Why would I tell you what my kid is doing, when my kid is trying to get away from your kid in the first place?
Sorry, but that’s the reason.

+1

Why does everyone always assume it’s jealousy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have done this.
It was because the child was negative and my child wanted to get away from them and not be around them. Why would I tell you what my kid is doing, when my kid is trying to get away from your kid in the first place?
Sorry, but that’s the reason.

+1

Why does everyone always assume it’s jealousy?

Easier than considering you or dc is the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am trying to figure out if I am being sensitive or if some parents of dc's former teammates are being uber competitive. They aren't being forthcoming about what their dc's are doing in regards to the sport and seem reluctant to share with me information about where they are playing, what extra training they may be doing, etc. To be honest, I am not certain if it is competitiveness or jealousy at this point. Why wouldn't people want to share what they are doing or get weird if I try to get my dc involved too?

If I felt that your questions were hounding and obtrusive, I would distance myself from you and not respond. Think about your manner. If you feel confident that you are not being offensive then maybe it is that there is some competitiveness or jealousy; however, that probably isn't the first conclusion I would make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have done this.
It was because the child was negative and my child wanted to get away from them and not be around them. Why would I tell you what my kid is doing, when my kid is trying to get away from your kid in the first place?
Sorry, but that’s the reason.

+1

Why does everyone always assume it’s jealousy?

Because they all think their kid is a superstar...so of course we are all jealous. ha