Imminent separation- will I ever feel "normal" again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so glad to know that I'm not alone, OP (and other responders who have walked this road.)

I'm almost 2 months post-separation and I'm struggling just as much as day 1. I'm functional, making sure I'm OK for my kids, etc. but the "loss of the dream," like someone said, is very real. This is not the life that I had planned. But sometimes, that's the way it goes, and it SUCKS.

No abuse here, but he cheated, plus he pulled the ol' "I don't love you like that anymore" BS. And I know I deserve to be loved, but at the same time, I want to be loved BY HIM.

No advice here, just sympathy.

(Also, I love the 10 pushups if you want to text him idea. I'm going to have some seriously strong shoulders soon!!!)

OP here- yeah, that part sucks. You sound like you are doing well, though, I could take some more advice from your playbook.

To treat myself, today I bought a new bed. I don't want the one we shared together anymore. Baby steps.

[Anonymous]

Baby steps. Eventually you will stop wanting him to love you, I promise. You will also genuinely be glad that he went off with the other woman, if that's the case. They deserve each other.

I promise you'll get to the point where you won't even miss him anymore. You do deserve better. There are men who stay, who,are faithful, and who value commitment. Immature dolts cheat and "fall out of love."