Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone who wants sex more than a few times a ywar
Someone who could handle dishes put back not their way
Someone who doesn't hate my family and think they are out to get them
Someone who has friends
Someone I'm not afraid of saying the wrong thing to and constantly feeling like I am on eggshells
Someone who doesn't yell at me in front of our kids or public

Sadly I'm still married to this person. But the second time around will be much different.

You married my ex-wife? Things do get better after divorce.

[Anonymous]

--dealt with and learned from their s--t
--doesn't blame others excessively
--gives and receives all kinds of love
--communicates well
--fun
--financially secure

[Anonymous]

Kindness, respect, and selflessness.

[Anonymous]

Does not flirt with others in front of you.
Financially responsible.
Likes animals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thigh gap - first wife put on a lot of weight with kids
Earner - I didn't want the single provider stress
10 years younger so our libidos? matched a little better

you suck and are incredibly superficial.
you should have worked at it.
I hope you eventually seek forgiveness for being a complete jerk

He is just being honest about men's relationship priorities, and that a marriage will fail when the wife stops doing these things. Why does this truth offend you?
Exactly how is HE responsible for "working at" her weight gain and libido loss?