Do rich husbands usually have hot wives?

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02/26/2018 14:35

Subject: Re:Do rich husbands usually have hot wives?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. That escalated quickly.

I work professionally with couples, many of whom are quite well off or on their way their. Here are my observations. People with actual wealth, earned or inherited, who intend to keep it, are very conservative in their dating and sex lives. They either come from generational family money, in which case various family members and minders have taught them their whole lives to avoid NOKOP, or they are high IQ, high industrious "doers", in which case they are smart enough to avoid losers. This applies equally to men and women.

Here's a secret that most people on this forum seem to want to prove wrong - wealthy people (true wealth, not high income or aspirationally wealthy) tend to have pretty good marriages. The kind of people who make the right choices in life about money and keeping it often also make the right choices about a husband or wife. This is reflected in the relatively small divorce rate for truly wealthy people. I keep saying truly wealthy, because I saw someone mention the country club. Those people often have no wealth. They display wealth they do not possess. THOSE men may have trophy wives, because they are about appearance, not practice. But truly wealthy men tend to pick wives based on criteria beyond JUST physical attraction. They don't want to get divorced. They actually don't want to cheat on their wives or have their wives cheat on them. That is how you lose your wealth. That is how you screw up your kids. These people are smart. They know what they are doing.

As to the basic question of attractiveness, it could simply be this. I deal with many attractive, well-put-together couples. They generally have healthy relationships. People in healthy relationships generally attempt to keep themselves as sexually appealing to their partners as possible for as long as possible. It is as aspect of maintains a healthy relationship. It is probably the case that wealthier people have more tools at their disposal to do this. They can build a home gym, give the kids to a nanny so they can do an hour of yoga every morning, etc. Three is nothing wrong with this. Again, it is a signal of a healthy relationship.

In my experience, wealthy people who are intelligent and interested in keeping their wealth tend to be in better relationships than the average person. That will probably shock a lot of you. But, then again, it seems as though many on here think that the guy driving a 200k sports car to pick his kids up is wealthy, when in reality the guy picking his kids up in a late model Lincoln Towncar probably has 100X that first guy's net worth. So you may be looking at a bad sample.

It is shocking to no one that the "truly wealthy" as you put it - people who don't have to worry about money beyond how to invest well and avoid taxes - have happier relationships. They have more time! They have less worries!
The tone of your post is snobby and annoying, but I do agree with you that parading around a trophy wife who is clearly only interested in the lifestyle you can provide is indicative of less than stellar character and probably intelligence.