Boyfriend in the Hospital

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We are a family with eczema, so putting lotion is sort of automatic. My husband and I will do it to the kids, I will do it to my husband, etc...

If you two are used to putting lotion on each other for dry skin, then I don't understand why he over-reacted like this. Pain meds, or pain, DO NOT make you react nastily like this. I have been in the most EXCRUCIATING pain several times in my life for various diseases, as well as a birth with pitocin but no pain meds, and never said things like that, or thought them.

So this is just a jerky little asshole bullying you around. And you know where he gets it - his parents, who are bullying you around.

Your best option, OP, is to see him through his injury charitably, and then to break up with him. He's not a keeper. You need to choose someone who is kind and respectful, because you sound sweet and sensitive. It doesn't matter if he seems a little less fun at first.

Oh good, this thread was missing a poster to assert that because she'd never had a particular experience, no one could ever possibly have that experience.

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02/23/2018 02:22

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Nobody's mentioned their $300K income yet.

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02/23/2018 03:08

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds off - like a real dumbass.

Good think breathing is autonomic or that idiot would be dead.

Run. I mean it. RUN.

He sounds like someone who had surgery a day ago, is probably on pain meds , and is in a lot of pain. And then has to deal with an emotionally unstable gf.

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02/23/2018 06:19

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you guys? Honestly, the lotion thing is weird and speaks to some lack of boundaries on your part.

Oh Good God, Relax people. She was trying to bring comfort to her boyfriend not cross some huge personal boundary. Do you ask your SO's if it's okay to hug them, or kiss them before you do that too??

I have lived with my husband for 20 years. I would NEVER, EVER put lotion on him without asking first. WTF, folks. And if somebody put lotion on me without first telling me ... yuck. YUCK. SUPER YUCK!

Super yuck? Over lotion? Condolences to your husband.

My whole leg? with lotion he wasn't ready for? with possibly a scent he didn't like? Why would I do that to him without asking? and vice versa? How much time does it take to ask if you want lotion on your leg??

Oh OP was wrong not to ask first for sure, but nothing is SUPER YUCK about lotion.

Not the lotion I'm objecting to. It is the not being asked. I find that invasive.