Online dating - how to address weight gain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just post new pictures, full body, showing how you really look like now.

No need to mention the weight gain to anyone, reasons behind it, that you are working on it, etc. that only makes you sound insecure.

A pic is worth a thousand words....

+1 fully agree with this. ANd since you already talking to this guy just exchange pics before you go out and send the current ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would advise eating a lot fewer calories

+1

The answer here is to lose weight and quit fooling yourself with excuses. "This and that happened, etc." You're eating too much.

[Anonymous]

Put up recent pictures!!! Not a difficult solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are these posts stating that 5-10 pounds is "nothing"? Are you crazy? My husband is, 5'10" and used to be 195lb. He was wearing a tight size 36 pant. Now he's 185lb and wears a comfortable size 34 pant.

5-10 pounds is a HUGE difference. Also, he's a big guy (used to workout and has a large frame. If you're a woman 10 pounds is a lot of weight. If you're worried about the weight, burn it off.

1. Stop eating sugar.
2. Stop eating processed foods.
3. Stop eating after 9pm.
4. Stop eating fried foods.
5. Drink plenty of water (pee at last 5-6 times a day).

You will lose 2-4 actual pounds in the first week alone.

You are a DH. No woman is as insane as this poster.

What is insane about eating healthy? It's not hard to not eat sugar, processed food, skip fried food and drink water. Anyone who plays sports or stays in shape does this as a normal lifestyle. I would say you're the insane one of you think this is remotely difficult.

Nah. I exercise compulsively so that I can eat anything I want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say anything. If you told me before a date you gained 10pounds and are working on loosing it. I’ll instantly think yeah 20+. She’s a fatty and will balloon up again.

Dress nice. You have a nice rack? West a dress that shows your nice size. You don’t need to show skin. But damn we guys love curves.

We see that. Your cute. Your fun. You like to joke and
Have a good time. We’re in like Flynn and those 10 pounds do not matter.

Guess “you guys” don’t like grammar, huh?

[Anonymous]

Update your pic apologize and let everyone know you are working on it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are these posts stating that 5-10 pounds is "nothing"? Are you crazy? My husband is, 5'10" and used to be 195lb. He was wearing a tight size 36 pant. Now he's 185lb and wears a comfortable size 34 pant.

5-10 pounds is a HUGE difference. Also, he's a big guy (used to workout and has a large frame. If you're a woman 10 pounds is a lot of weight. If you're worried about the weight, burn it off.

1. Stop eating sugar.
2. Stop eating processed foods.
3. Stop eating after 9pm.
4. Stop eating fried foods.
5. Drink plenty of water (pee at last 5-6 times a day).

You will lose 2-4 actual pounds in the first week alone.

You are a DH. No woman is as insane as this poster.

What is insane about eating healthy? It's not hard to not eat sugar, processed food, skip fried food and drink water. Anyone who plays sports or stays in shape does this as a normal lifestyle. I would say you're the insane one of you think this is remotely difficult.

Please stop talking

New poster here. I'm a woman. This isn't insane. It's great advice. I don't understand why they should stop talking. It isn't a crash diet. It's eating smart.

I gained some weight after a particularly stressful period. My doctor gave me pretty similar advice (plus reducing carbs significantly) and the pounds melted off. I feel much better and my blood work looks way better. Nothing insane about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weight fluctuates, for God's sake. It's ridiculous that this is even a concern.

What's ridiculous is that you believe that is some kind of a norm. It's unhealthy.
Also lame to then claim your actual weight is your last good looking weight.

[Anonymous]

I would assume you had an eating disorder or serious body image issues if you need to preemptively point out that you gained 5-10 lbs. Your focus on your weight and your appearance would be a turn off.

If you had gained enough weight that your pictures no longer looked like you - then I would say put up new pictures and be honest in your profile about your body type.