Host informs parents "don't bring your monsters"

[Anonymous]

I feel like he was maybe trying to be funny? Even so (and especially if not), he probably took it a little too far / got a bit aggressive at the end there.

Agree it's definitely rude if people were asking him to set up a babysitter...my only thought is maybe it's something a lot of family members are coming in from out of town for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I received a group invite via facebook to a relatives 21st birthday party in March. It is being hosted by her brother and cousin. They are renting an event space and will have a DJ and open bar. From the website it looks like they are going all out. I am very much looking forward to the party. It never even crossed my mind to bring my child to a party like this. There was an updated message posted in the invite. My cousin wrote this:

"I have received some inquiries about if children were allowed at the party. I should have been clear at the beginning I suppose but this is not a party for kids. I have even had some cheap people go as far as to ask me to provide a "party room" for kids with babysitting at the venue. I want to make something absolutely clear. Children are NOT welcome. Keep your monsters at home. I will not pay for any sort of babysitting service. I uninvited certain members of my own family for being so presumptions from this party. Anyone else asks me to provide free babysitting your invitation will be rescinded. This is a 21st birthday party not a wedding."

I understand completely that some family members were out of line. I completely get that. I also think that has to be one of the rudest messages from a host I have ever read. I know he is upset but I feel he was out of line. It has created a *** storm. His own mother is apologizing for his rude message and neither host will remove the message from the facebook group invite. I was thinking of calling the second host and ask her to remove it. My husband says to stay out of it. What should I do?

I would honor their request and find a babysitter. However, I would be likely to remind them of it someday when they complain about not being able to bring their own children to a family event that is a "no kids" event. These things tend to come full circle. The circle of life, and all that. It just takes time.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. None of your business, at all. Yes, it was very rude, but it is not your job to teach this grown man how to behave.

Your only job is to reply to the invitation in a timely manner. In or out? Decide, then keep it moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's just being frank to get his point across.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would pretend as though I never saw the message, but internally, I wouldn’t exactly be psyched about going

+1

[Anonymous]

If someone asked me to pay for childcare at a party I'd get rather snippy too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would pretend as though I never saw the message, but internally, I wouldn’t exactly be psyched about going

+1

Why? Do you really want kids at an adult night time event? That's just plain crazy and selfish.

[Anonymous]

OMG, this sounds like the moderators of a Facebook group I'm in. They respond like this to everything. I would leave the group but I can't look away. For those who think the message is succinct and Frank, you need to figure out that a little class and nuance goes a long way. Otherwise you just sound like a idiot on a power Trip.

[Anonymous]

In no world is it your place to ask him to remove anything from his invitation- surely you're joking?
Hopefully you aren't clutching your pearls over the "monsters" reference. If so let me warn you that other terms you may hear to describe children are crumb snatchers and rug rats. It's all tongue in cheek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it.

He is amazingly rude though and I'm not sure I would be interested in attending. Is he always so rude?

He can be blunt at times but I have not known him to be this outright rude. What surprises me is the second host who has allowed this message to stand. She is a very kind and considerate person.

You are getting really hung up on this message OP.

I'd actually laugh about it. It sorta sounds like he was trying to be funny.

The monsters comment could maybe be funny. Uninviting people and threatening to uninvite people is ridiculously rude.

[Anonymous]

Very weird to attend a 21 year olds birthday if you have kids anyway. I can’t imagine worrying about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very weird to attend a 21 year olds birthday if you have kids anyway. I can’t imagine worrying about this.

As an adult, I'd have no interest in attending a 21 year olds evening party. Let them be 21 and have their fun.

[Anonymous]

I wanted to have, “NO CHILDREN ALLOWED! GET A BABYSITTER!” in red 18 point font on my wedding invitations. I am with the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to have, “NO CHILDREN ALLOWED! GET A BABYSITTER!” in red 18 point font on my wedding invitations. I am with the host.

It is the host's party, he gets to do what he wants. Anyone offended by the host's message should just not attend. I'm a mom with little kids, and I think it is extremely weird and very concerning that any parent would even consider wanting to bring their child to what clearly is intended to be an "adult" party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was the cousin trying to be sarcastic in his message? Maybe that's his type of humor and sorta an inside joke among the immediate family members.

That would be my guess. I think you're reading it too literally.

I think it's funny. I'm older with kids and get.