Host informs parents "don't bring your monsters"

[Anonymous]

I received a group invite via facebook to a relatives 21st birthday party in March. It is being hosted by her brother and cousin. They are renting an event space and will have a DJ and open bar. From the website it looks like they are going all out. I am very much looking forward to the party. It never even crossed my mind to bring my child to a party like this. There was an updated message posted in the invite. My cousin wrote this:

"I have received some inquiries about if children were allowed at the party. I should have been clear at the beginning I suppose but this is not a party for kids. I have even had some cheap people go as far as to ask me to provide a "party room" for kids with babysitting at the venue. I want to make something absolutely clear. Children are NOT welcome. Keep your monsters at home. I will not pay for any sort of babysitting service. I uninvited certain members of my own family for being so presumptions from this party. Anyone else asks me to provide free babysitting your invitation will be rescinded. This is a 21st birthday party not a wedding."

I understand completely that some family members were out of line. I completely get that. I also think that has to be one of the rudest messages from a host I have ever read. I know he is upset but I feel he was out of line. It has created a *** storm. His own mother is apologizing for his rude message and neither host will remove the message from the facebook group invite. I was thinking of calling the second host and ask her to remove it. My husband says to stay out of it. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I would pretend as though I never saw the message, but internally, I wouldn’t exactly be psyched about going

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's appallingly rude and entitled behavior, but you shouldn't get involved with asking him to remove it. You can decide whether you want to go or not, but that's the extent of what you can do.

[Anonymous]

What should YOU do?
Stay out of it. Are you that bored and have nothing to do? This is not even close to being your problem or business.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. This only reflects badly on the guy who wrote it.

[Anonymous]

He's just being frank to get his point across.

[Anonymous]

He’s 21 and it sounded like people ask him basically to arrange babysitting for their kids. Stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the cousin has no tact and poor public relations skills.

Whatever. It happens. Some people lack social graces. He happens to be one of them.

[Anonymous]

What person over the age of 25 would want to go to a birthday for a 21 year old? I'm picturing a bunch of 20-somethings forcing this kid to take shots and some bad dancing.

[Anonymous]

Decline and move on. He should have a family party with kids and a adult party/friends without kids. I just wouldn't go even if it wasn't meant for me or my kids.

[Anonymous]

Was the cousin trying to be sarcastic in his message? Maybe that's his type of humor and sorta an inside joke among the immediate family members.

That would be my guess. I think you're reading it too literally.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. You really think the second host has no clue what’s going on?

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it.

He is amazingly rude though and I'm not sure I would be interested in attending. Is he always so rude?

[Anonymous]

This party is for my soon to be 21 year old cousin and its being hosted by her 30 y/o brother and another cousin. Everyone seems to be really looking forward to it. He lined up a "famous" DJ and everyone is prepared to dance the night away. The message he posted is so unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's just being frank to get his point across.

+1. I think it is succinct and hysterical. Lighten up Francis.